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Help: The Original Human Dilemma Kindle Edition

3.9 3.9 out of 5 stars 11 ratings

In a book the San Francisco Chronicle called "unclassifiably wise" and a "masterpiece," noted Harper's essayist Garret Keizer explores the paradox that we are human only by helping others– and all too human when we try to help.

It is the primal cry, the first word in a want ad, the last word on the tool bar of a computer screen. A song by the Beatles, a prayer to the gods, the reason Uncle Sam is pointing at you. What we get by with a little of, what we could use a bit more of, what we were only trying to do when we were so grievously misunderstood. What we'll be perfectly fine without, thank you very much.

It makes us human. It can make us suffer. It can make us insufferable. It can make all the difference in the world. It can fall short.

"Help is like the swinging door of human experience: 'I can help!' we exclaim and go toddling into the sunshine; 'I was no help at all,' we mutter and go shuffling to our graves. I'm betting that the story can be happier than that . . . but I have a clearer idea now than I once did of what I'm betting against."

In his new book, Help, Garret Keizer raises the questions we ask everyday and in every relationship that matters to us. What does it mean to help? When does our help amount to hindrance? When are we getting less help–or more–than we actually want? When are we kidding ourselves in the name of helping (or of refusing to "enable") someone else?

Drawing from history, literature, firsthand interviews, and personal anecdotes, Help invites us to ponder what is at stake whenever one human being tries to assist another. From the biblical Good Samaritan to present day humanitarians, from heroic sacrifices in times of political oppression to nagging dilemmas in times of ordinary stress, Garret Keizer takes us on a journey that is at once far–ranging and never far from where we live. He reminds us that in our perpetual need for help, and in our frequent perplexities over how and when to give it, we are not alone.

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From Publishers Weekly

This eloquent inquiry into how humans help or do not help one another ranges widely in philosophical issues. A former Episcopal priest, Keizer (The Enigma of Anger: Essays on a Sometimes Deadly Sin) offers no panaceas or programs for becoming a better or happier person. Instead, he presents well-written, irreverent and perceptive essays that examine why humans offer assistance and how that assistance is accepted. Drawing on examples from religion, literature, history and personal experience, he delves into a number of very different giving experiences. In the parable of the Good Samaritan, for example, assistance is spontaneously given, but in a limited manner that doesn't involve a long-term commitment. To illustrate how help can backfire, Keizer recalls how Norman Mailer helped to gain parole for convicted killer Jack Abbott, an aspiring writer, who, once released, went on to murder again. Keizer recounts, at length, the familiar tale of the French town of Le Chambon, which sheltered Jews from the Nazis. Many who were hidden never returned to thank their rescuers—not out of ingratitude, Keizer says, but because to revisit the town would have meant reliving a time of unspeakable horror. Keizer's provocative essays on the limits and contradictions of giving are refreshingly nonjudgmental. "Help is a part of our humanity," he concludes, but "its paradoxes define us" as well.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.

From Booklist

Altruism, that capacity to do unto others whether or not they would similarly do unto you, is examined from wide-ranging anthropological and philosophical viewpoints by an author who brings fresh perspectives and thought-provoking insights to this frequently misinterpreted human, and nonhuman, imperative. Keizer takes a philosophical approach by analyzing situational ethics that confront individuals on a daily basis. Often framing his arguments within the context of the biblical story of the Good Samaritan, Keizer contends that the nature of one human being's desire to assist another is a complex one, not always as selfless as it seems, and not always as effective as it is intended to be. Given today's extraordinary global challenges, altruism as a moral mandate is more critical than ever yet may be harder to achieve. Books such as Keizer's can help readers understand how we can develop unselfish attitudes, change our behavior, and pave the way to bringing about universal benefits. Carol Haggas
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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B002SR2Q6E
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ HarperOne; Reprint edition (October 13, 2009)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ October 13, 2009
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 2.5 MB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 290 pages
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  • Reviewed in the United States on June 29, 2015
    Foggy at the start. His interviews become quite elaborate and thought-provoking throughout. I liked this book and would read it again.It provides an interesting look at behaviors associated with help.
  • Reviewed in the United States on January 13, 2017
    Glued to this one. Written by someone who knows about trying to "help" people - the challenges, the arrogance, the rejection. Begins and ends with the question, "Should I...?" Cynical by design, charitable by default. A must read for anyone in the helping professions.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on May 15, 2007
    One of the best books I have read.

    The book is about the one question that comes up again and again in one's life. But that is not what it is limited to. The real value of this book lies in the depth with which it tackles the issue, from all angles, without taking sides.

    Rarely do I encounter a book which starts so many thoughts, plants so many ideas.

    It is a book for the thinking person.

    And I am lucky to have come across it at the right time in my life. If I had read it three years ago, I would have dismissed it as irrelevant, overly cyclical, stating the obvious. Only now can I appreciate it for what it really is.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on March 22, 2006
    This book will sucker you, and I don't mean that in a good way. It starts out as a hard-nosed, nicely-written discussion of what it means to help someone and the rewards and troubles that may ensue. The first half of the book presents a number-but not as many as the jacket blurbs would have you believe-of the philosophical conundrums of giving and receiving help; as a one-time teacher and recently-retired minister the author has had lots of personal and practical experience in the area. Then about halfway through the screen of objectivity starts to slip and the author's radical leftist colors begin peeking out here and there. By the last third of the book the text has become a confused, softheaded 'social liberation theory' polemic for some sort of a semi-Marxist utopia where, I guess, everyone devotes his or her existence to helping each other. This may be fine if you already believe that sort of thing, but the argument isn't convincing and to a more neutral reader it comes off like a rant. Heaven help the conservative who stumbles on this piece of work; the author has no help (or compassion) for him or her. Which is too bad because the original topic-the paradox of help-is worthy of any amount of reasoned discussion, and the author's nice writing (if you discount the usual self-centered boomer "I this... and I that..." style) draws you in. But the journey doesn't go to its advertised destintation, and I'd say spend your time and money elsewhere.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on September 11, 2010
    Have not started reading this yet but I liked the reviews and the subject matter. Look forward to starting it soon.
  • Reviewed in the United States on November 28, 2004
    This is a book that will appeal particularly ro those of us who feel that more than anything else help gives our lives meaning. But as the author (Keiser) puts it in a pessimistic moment, we cry out eagerly as children, "I can help!" and in old age we lament, "I was no help at all." We've probably all reflected and even been troubled that our reasons for helping are often selfish, and our sincere good intentions sometimes fail to help. Keizer somewhat downplays the heroism of help, portraying it as something integral to a healthy humanity, and often most effective in the mundane context of daily life and work. There are chapters examining in every which way the parable of the good Samaritan, the efforts of author Norman Mailer to help a convicted murderer with a literary gift, who tragically went on to kill again shortly after his prison release, the villagers of Le Chambon who hid Jewish refugees during World War II, the gritty nobility of helping professions, etc.

    Keiser has a writerly fascination with language and literary curlicues that in another context I might appreciate, but with this subject matter I found myself getting annoyed with his "cleverness." Clearly that's his style but to me it came across a bit like someone enamored of the sound of his own voice.

    I had high expectations of this book when I bought it (I can afford to buy a full-price hardcover only extremely rarely). It was worth the money and the time and I would definitely recommend it. It did disappoint me particularly in one way however, which was its much less depth of attention to the problems of receiving help--the orientation is mainly toward being the helper. As a retired clergyman the author clearly identifies as a helper and makes some assumptions that his readers will be materially secure, socially conscious helper types. I fit the latter part of that profile, but as a poor person and a person with a degree of disability I've experienced receiving help as perhaps even more complex and morally and emotionally fraught than helping. I was going to give only 4 stars for this reason, but I've changed my mind in the hopes that Keizer will write a companion volume, "Helped."

    The book does include some nice discussion of recognizing the moral agency of the person being helped, and his or her own need to help--I appreciated that, while the emphasis was mostly on helping, the book largely avoids objectifying those being helped, which I think goes hand in hand with not glorifying the heroism of the helper.

    In other words, a healthy and organic rather than romanticized concept of help.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on September 14, 2004
    You'll never look at help in the same way after reading this unique and gripping book. The author explores the human urge to help in all its heartbreaking, paradoxical complexity. Unflinching in his vision but always humane and compassionate (and even funny at moments), this is a fascinating guided tour of twists and turns through our often-tangled motives, our cherished ideals and the difficult realities of our individual lives. If you're a fan of Keizer's amazing essays for HARPER'S Magazine, you'll love HELP.
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