BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) plus Temperament (Personality & Behavioral Style) can be very important to know about, especially for those dealing with it personally or because someone they love and care about is a BPD (usually a spouse or significant other). Few people know about BPD or PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome), which generally happens when separation or divorce results because a spouse has BPD and Parent Alienation against a noncustodial spouse or the "other" parent is involved. Children of a BPD parent are at high risk of being BPD with PAS, and grow up with multiple problems that can be life-threatening, traumatic, abusive, and wrong.
There is a lot of confusion with tendency to misdiagnose or fail to know someone is a BPD, especially when PAS is involved; generally for generations. It becomes an ongoing cycle of traumatic abuse and alienation (turning) against others that gets passed from generation to generation unless appropriately recognized and addressed with appropriate evaluation, diagnosis, counseling, and treatment.
Children growing up with a BPD parent, which generally includes PA (Parent Alienation against others with denial of information, truth, contact, and relationships with others); commonly grow up with huge ongoing problems that negatively affect them for life, especially within their own attempts at relationships with others. Knowing the characteristics common to a BPD, and to PA can help individuals to be informed and able to understand and respond more positively (safely). Not being informed can be dangerous and life-threatening for everyone involved. Especially for children, teens, and young adults forced to grow up with a traumatically hateful, abusive, impulsive, irresponsible, immature, deceptive (lying), malicious parent while denied all information, contact, and relationships with others by the BPD parent demanding a child choose only the BPD parent.
Someone with BPD denies all wrongdoing and refuses to make things right, while denying mental illness and the need for appropriate evaluation, diagnosis, and counseling. They deceive self and others, believing their own lies and false ideas/beliefs so that others believe what they SAY even when totally absurd and false with evidence that what they think, believe, and say is FALSE! They are generally charismatic (people like them). They will say and do anything they think might be needed to manipulate, deceive, and get others to agree with them, believe them, and comply with their ever-changing demands. They think and care about no one but self and their own personal agendas. They can be very clever and highly intelligent (educated), but totally lack maturity, common sense, and good judgment. They are generally rebellious as teens with huge problems that increase over time, and without appropriate diagnosis and counseling; they struggle with relationships and generally have a very difficult life to deal with.
The book is OKay, but does not include information about God-given Temperament (Personality and behavioral style), which is important for everyone to have, know, and be able to apply. Temperament can increase the inappropriate responses, attitudes, and traumatic abuses of a BPD; especially a BPD with PAS. Something we deal with on a daily ongoing basis because of the ongoing hatred and traumatic abuses of a BPD with PAS and a history of 5 Maternal generations of total destruction because of it; while those with BPD and PAS deny all wrongdoing and realities involved. Children robbed of a relationship with a noncustodial parent from 4 months, 18 months, & 3 with 2 suicidal teens responding after a lifetime of traumatic abuse, deception, hatred, and life-threatening situations created by their custodial parent and others who are the 4th & 5th Maternal generation forced to be destroyed because those with BPD and PAS deny all wrongdoing and have never been appropriately evaluated, diagnosed, or treated. And, yes, appropriate diagnose, counseling, and treatment are available. The problem is that those with BPD and PAS reject and refuse to acknowledge realities, evaluation, and treatment so that the ongoing cycle passed from generation to generation cannot be broken. Especially when those dealing with it have no idea what's going on or why or how to respond (what to say and do).
Responding incorrectly generally always makes things much worse and increases the sudden angry rages and traumatic, hateful abuses of a BPD with PAS. They can be dangerous and those they abuse can be totally destroyed with no probable cause (evidence or witnesses). Especially in Ohio where no evidence and no witnesses can totally destroy someone based solely on FALSE Allegations (Lies and perjury). Especially when courts (judges, prosecutors, attorneys, children services, and others) believe, assist, and give sole custody to the BPD parent with PAS so that kids are also totally destroyed over time and end up suicidal. A reality and fact that most individuals know nothing about until it happens without knowing or comprehending why that is.
Information is important, and this explains one of the most confusing aspects of Borderline Personality. The basic main FEAR of being ABANDONED, which motivates the BPD with PAS to be demanding, insecure, totally self focused, and even dangerous. It can be worse when FEAR of not getting into Heaven is added to the motivation of the BPD with PAS so that the individual will say and do anything without ability to respond appropriately to those fears; especially without destroying others because of those fears.
The other books, information, and materials available online and otherwise are critical for anyone having BPD, PAS, or having to deal with the realities of someone with BPD,PAS and life-threatening situations that result.
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