Review
"At last, a book by real men for real men focused on the prize (a happy and contented wife) and filled with the secrets to getting more and better sex, health, wealth, and happiness. It’s a road map for men, women, or anyone who works with them—straight to the promised land. No man who is married, or plans to get married, should be without this book."
--Diane Sollee, founder and director, SmartMarriages.com "Secrets of Happily Married Men combines an empathy for men with an inspiring and no-excuses challenge to apply their man-made talents toward a better marriage. I recommend this well-written, honest, and non-PC book to any man who cares about love, family, and marriage."
--Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author, Why Men Are the Way They Are and Father and Child Reunion
"Scott Haltzman writes clearly of the gender-specific issues of men and their response to marital conflict. His commonsense language invites readers, regardless of gender, to want more."
--Andrew Slaby, M.D., Ph.D., M.P.H., clinical professor of psychiatry, New York University; author, 60 Ways to Make Stress Work for You
"Scott Haltzman writes the perfect playbook for marriage. The Secrets of Happily Married Men teaches you all the right moves. It is a powerful book."
--Stephen Baker, “The Touchdown Maker,” New York Giants Super Bowl Champion
"The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship."
--John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"This book is brilliant! It’s that rare ‘relationship book’ that men will actually like. Frankly, if all married couples read this book and followed its guidance, the divorce rate would plummet like a rock and the level of satisfaction in marriage would skyrocket."
--Peggy Vaughan, DearPeggy.com; author, The Monogamy Myth
"Once in a generation a book is published that changes the discourse about men and marriage. The Secrets of Happily Married Men is that book. Dr. Haltzman weaves a compelling yet humorous argument for a man’s ability to master the skills necessary for understanding his wife and developing a marriage he can be proud of. Haltzman obviously relishes controversy and has several provocative discussions about traditional feminist-based marriage therapy being unfair to men, as well as the brain- and hormone- based differences between women and men."
--Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., professor of psychology, American University; author, Getting It Right the First Time and Rekindling Desire
"This terrific book is full of stuff you can do (yes, you!). It will guide you in how to connect with your wife in ways that count. She may have bought it, but you need to read it. Get busy. By the way, my wife grabbed this book and read it before I did and she thinks it’s wonderful. Maybe you could read it before your wife does! Big points, fella."
--Scott Stanley, marital researcher; author, The Power of Commitment: A Guide to Active, Lifelong Love and co-author, Fighting for Your Marriage
"Written in the language of men, this brave, take-no-prisoners, highly practical, pro-marriage book is a must-read for men and women alike. I read it from cover to cover."
--Pat Love, Ed.D., author, The Truth About Love
"This book will reach married men (and women) in their minds and hearts. Rather than portraying men as deficient in relationships, Scott Haltzman shows men how to bring their unique strengths to their marriage and how to manage their unique challenges. He blends neuroscience, clinical experience, and everyday stories of men in marriage in a compelling way. A gift to the married men of the world."
--William J. Doherty, Ph.D., professor of family social science, University of Minnesota; author, Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart
"In a culture that too often blames men and their alleged ‘lack of relationship skills’ for failing marriages, Secrets tell it like it is—men can and often do take successful action to help their marriages. It helps point men in the right direction and tells the truth about how traditional marriage counseling is often an inhospitable environment for men."
--Glenn Sacks, columnist and host of radio talk show, His Side with Glenn Sacks
"We live in a world that has largely given up on the idea that men might be fit for family life and cooperative, communicative equality with women. Psychiatrist and marriage therapist Scott Haltzman now comes to the rescue. Scott spends his life listening to men, to the pain and confusion of guys trying to answer Freud’s immortal question, ‘What does a woman want?’ or, more germane, ‘What does a woman’s therapist or self-help guru want?’ Scott has written an invaluable book, crammed with good advice for men on marriage and with cues for women to understand what if feels like to be a man and how men might be useful if everyone would stop trying to fix the fact that they are men. (Scott is well aware that being a man is no excuse for being a pig.) This book should be on the bedside table of any marriage with a man in it."
--Frank S. Pittman III, M.D., author, Man Enough and Grow Up!
"My wife and I have been married for forty-one years, with never any doubts, and yet, somehow, reading Haltzman’s Secrets was rewarding. It revealed new things about me, us, and her."
--Gary Sutton, business-turnaround expert; author, Corporate Canaries
"Finally, the book that every man needs to read and every woman will want her special guy to memorize. This book destroys the myth that men know nothing and care little about how to have a successful relationship. In fact, most men want to be good husbands more than anything else in life. Not only that, but given half a chance we’re actually quite good at it. Dr. Haltzman gives us the tools we need to make marriage work. But I warn you, this book is not for the politically correct or for those who think that men need to be fixed. This book celebrates our differences and recognizes that there is nothing more important in life than learning to have a successful marriage. Get a copy for him and for her and for everyone else you care about."
--Jed Diamond, author, Male Menopause and The Irritable Male Syndrome
"Every decade or so, a book about marriage comes along whose perspective is unique, essential, and marriage changing. The Secrets of Happily Married Men is that kind of book. Like Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this book is hard to put down whether you are a woman or a man. It grips you from the first page and challenges you to tell the kinds of secrets that lead to real happier marriages and human love."
--Michael Gurian, author, What Could He Be Thinking?, The Wonder of B
From the Inside Flap
Here at last is a new voice speaking up on behalf of men: Men who are different from women, men who want a great relationship with the woman they love, men who have their own way of creating a great marriage. Men have traditionally had a bad rap from conventional relationship books. Many self-help gurus describe men as either commitment phobic, ignorant, or disinterested in the needs of women. The Secrets of Happily Married Men takes a completely different approach and offers a?positive way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view.
The Secrets of Happily Married Men is filled with stories from real men who are happy in their partnershipsmen who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Written by Dr. Scott Haltzman, founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com, this unique book reveals his proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, and powers?as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem solver, partner, husband, and father.
Dr. Haltzman presents eight proven techniques that he developed from his research and through the confidential correspondence to his highly successful Web site, including
- Make Your Marriage Your Job
- Know Your Wife
- Be Home Now
- Expect Conflict and Deal with It
- Learn to Listen
- Aim to Please
- Understand the Truth About Sex
- Celebrate Your Love
Written in a humorous and entertaining style, the book provides specific analysis, guidelines, and techniques that are based on male biology, neuroscience, brain differences, and unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. In addition, The Secrets of Happily Married Men contains?compelling true?stories, anecdotes, and confessions written by and for men (and the women who love them).
From the Back Cover
Praise for The Secrets of Happily Married Men"At last, a book by real men for real men focused on the prize (a happy and contented wife) and filled with the secrets to getting more and better sex, health, wealth, and happiness. It's a road map for men, women, or anyone who works with them—straight to the promised land. No man who is married, or plans to get married, should be without this book."
—Diane Sollee, founder and director, SmartMarriages.com
"Secrets of Happily Married Men combines an empathy for men with an inspiring and no-excuses challenge to apply their man-made talents toward a better marriage. I recommend this well-written, honest, and non-PC book to any man who cares about love, family, and marriage."
—Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author, Why Men Are the Way They Are and Father and Child Reunion
"Scott Haltzman writes clearly of the gender-specific issues of men and their response to marital conflict.? His commonsense language invites readers, regardless of gender, to want more."
—Andrew Slaby, M.D., Ph.D., M.P.H., clinical professor of psychiatry, New York University; author, 60 Ways to Make Stress Work for You
"Scott Haltzman writes the perfect playbook for marriage. The Secrets of Happily Married Men teaches you all the right moves. It is a powerful book."
—Stephen Baker, "The Touchdown Maker," New York Giants Super Bowl Champion
"The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship."
—John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"This book is brilliant! It's that rare 'relationship book' that men will actually like. Frankly, if all married couples read this book and followed its guidance, the divorce rate would plummet like a rock and the level of satisfaction in marriage would skyrocket."
—Peggy Vaughan, DearPeggy.com; author, The The Monogamy Myth
About the Author
Dr. Scott Haltzman is clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University, and medical director of NRI Community Services in Rhode Island. He also has an active private practice, with a focus on marriage counseling for individuals and couples. You can reach him at DrHaltzman@SecretsofMarriedMen.com. Theresa Foy DiGeronimo is the author of more than thirty-five books in the fields of education and parenting.
