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Love, Ellen: A Mother/Daughter Journey Kindle Edition

4.1 4.1 out of 5 stars 1,117 ratings

"Mom, I'm gay." With three little words, gay children can change their parents' lives forever. Yet at the same times it's a chance for those parents to realize nothing, really, has changed at all; same kid, same life, same bond of enduring love.

Twenty years ago, during a walk on a Mississippi beach, Ellen DeGeneres spoke those simple, powerful words to her mother. That emotional moment eventually brought mother and daughter closer than ever, but not without a struggle. Coming from a republican family with conservative values, Betty needed time and education to understand her daughter's homosexuality -- but her ultimate acceptance would set the stage for a far more public coming out, one that would change history.

In Love, Ellen, Betty DeGeneres tells her story; the complicated path to acceptance and the deepening of her friendship with her daughter; the media's scrutiny of their family life; the painful and often inspiring stories she's heard on the road as the first non-gay spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaigns National Coming Out Project.

With a mother's love, clear minded common sense, and hard won wisdom, Betty DeGeneres offers up her own very personal memoir to help parents understand their gay children, and to help sons and daughters who have been rejected by their families feel less alone.

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More than 20 years have passed since Ellen DeGeneres came out to her mother on a beach in Mississippi. Stunned, Betty DeGeneres could only think of her own disappointed expectations. As she put her arms around her daughter, she was struck by the realization that she would never see Ellen's picture on the engagements page of the Times-Picayune, her local paper. That Ellen would eventually appear on the front page of the Picayune and countless newspapers and magazines around the world is an irony not lost on her mother: "If I had known she was going to grow up to be Ellen DeGeneres," Betty quips, "I would have taken more pictures."

Now the spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign's National Coming Out Project, Betty DeGeneres travels the country explaining how she came to terms with her daughter's sexuality, and how love and acceptance can transform a family. Love, Ellen is an extension of her warm and much-admired public speaking, providing insight into her own life as well as Ellen's and arguing for further education, compassion, and the passage of antidiscrimination laws. --Regina Marler

From Publishers Weekly

DeGeneres spent most of her life as a hard-working, middle-class woman consumed with her marriages, raising her kids and making a living. That changed in 1997 when her actress/comedian daughter, Ellen DeGeneres, "came out" as a lesbian, both personally and as "Ellen Morgan," her character on the nationally televised sitcom Ellen. The first TV show to feature a major gay character, it precipitated extreme scrutiny of its star's life, prompting Betty to make a series of television appearances in support of her daughter. In this autobiography, DeGeneres details her own life, Ellen's childhood and how she came to terms with her daughter's lesbianism. She writes clearly and honestly about her innocence as a young adult, the problems of her second and third marriages, her breast cancer and her eventual ability to accept herself as "her own person." The only "shocking" revelation is that, allegedly, her third husband made advances on her daughter when Ellen was 17. The elder DeGeneres is now a spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign, a gay rights lobbying group, and continues today as an "everymom" helping parents understand and accept their gay children. Little here is particularly unique or interesting, which is, in part, DeGeneres's point: her family and her daughter are average Americans, and homosexuality is a normal variation of sexual identity and activity. While DeGeneres's intentions are good and she's clearly motivated by her love for her daughter, her book is far too long and uninvolving. The most important parts of her message probably would have been better conveyed in a 45-minute speech. Eight-page photo insert not seen by PW. Major ad/promo; 10-city author tour; 22 city satelite tour.
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00CKOSRCM
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ It Books (May 28, 2013)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ May 28, 2013
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 3.8 MB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 402 pages
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  • Reviewed in the United States on May 4, 2016
    Very well written, insightful and entertaining. What a great mother! What a great daughter! What a great story! I wish everyone would read this book. I think this book most definitely would help those parents who are dealing with a gay child or just help anyone understand better than they did what a person who happens to be gay has to contend with. Great human beings are simply great human beings regardless of sex and these two in my view are two of them. (I was raised in Christian Science too and I still love the precepts.)
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  • Reviewed in the United States on March 10, 2016
    It deserved five stars, but towards the end there was a lot of info.that slowed me down. The book drew me in right from the first page and kept going. Very well written and held my interest.
    It was amazinging how much the mother endured and her endless support to get to where they are now. Life sure isn't easy as it is shown in this book. Betty the mother of Ellen is one great lady and a wonderful example for the struggling parents.
    I would say a captivating book for me as I love true Stories.
  • Reviewed in the United States on May 15, 2014
    It was a good book. I watch Ellen every day. I never realized what her mother and other families went thru to find out that
    their child is gay. I think the book gives a rare look at how it effects the family. I also didn't realize that her mother was
    so educated and that she does a lot of speeches about the subject.
  • Reviewed in the United States on November 1, 2016
    A very poignant tale of love and acceptance. Found this so heartwarming and admiration for the work Betty is doing. As a proud Mom of a gay son, who is the most loving, kind and considerate person I know, it is so sad that so many people cannot continue to love their children once they come out. It is certainly their loss. Sexual preference is only a very small part of who we are. Love your children for who they are as a person. Don't turn your back on them as you will be missing out on wonderful experiences and memories that you can never recapture. Well done, BETTY DeGeneres. Love Ellen too!!!
  • Reviewed in the United States on February 28, 2016
    An excellent book by Ellen's Mom describing the beautiful love that exists between a Mother and her two children. Betty is a human being to emulate as she is an example of us all how to be a true Christian in every sense of the word. She has, I have no doubt, influenced hundreds, if not thousands, of people as she has proceeded to advocate for the entire LGBT community. Her work with the Human Rights Campaign has been nothing short of heroic. The mere fact that she has helped so many youngsters (and their families) be able to accept them as they are is nothing short of doing God's work. I applaud her as a Mother and for wrestling against her own personal demons and coming out on top in the end!!
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  • Reviewed in the United States on March 19, 2015
    It was a moving story , It gave insight to what happens to a family when a child tells you he or she is gay. I hope that I would be as brave as Betty was in a time when it was not hardly accepted. I hope we have come a long way to accept and love others who society says we shouldn't. I liked the book and it told how difficult it can be to be gay and live and work in a society that did not accept. I hope we have come a long way in accepting people for who they are and treat them with love and respect.
  • Reviewed in the United States on May 4, 2014
    I am so glad I got the chance to read this one! I'm a fan of Ellen, and I hadn't heard about how she first came out to anyone as a gay person. That revelation, especially because of her mom's honesty about her initial reaction, was very touching. The book takes us through her mom's journey from shock to becoming a national advocate for human equal rights. Some of the telling of the mom's personal life was just a tad of a distraction when I first read it, but in hindsight I can see how it helped to round out the picture of her mother as a very down-to-earth person. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in Ellen DeGeneres or in human rights!
  • Reviewed in the United States on February 28, 2016
    Earlier part of the book was insightful about the people; I enjoyed this part. Latter portion of the book turned into more of a listing of speaking engagements and was rather repetitive of the positive comments although each speaking engagement did offer nice specific examples. While, I wouldn't say that this is a poor way to present the movement against discrimination based on sexual preference, at least for me, I missed the character growth of Betty and Ellen. The people got lost in the descriptions of the elaborate room accommodations, foods, personal VIP treatment at each location. Plus, I'd have liked to learn more about Ellen's brother's journey and the show's employees struggles. So much praise was credited to Anne's role - and yet - knowing what we know now in 2016, makes the journey seem weaker. I know that at the time this book was completed, you could not know what would happen in the future, but in hindsight, it shows that focusing on any one person other than the main characters might come back to haunt the message. In this case, that happened - at least for me. But, I applaud Ellen and Betty for the roles they are playing in advancing the need to eliminate all forms of discrimination.
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  • Jake Antuán
    5.0 out of 5 stars Tienes que leerla
    Reviewed in Mexico on October 22, 2017
    Que harías en tu posición de madre, de religiosa, con un conocimiento básico del mundo, una venda en los ojos y una educacion en la cual te enseñan que debes ocultar tus emociones a toda costa para pretender ser una familia perfecta. Cómo olvidar todo eso y salir adelante
  • Anita Sathiam
    5.0 out of 5 stars Value for money
    Reviewed in India on May 30, 2019
    Wonderful
  • Darlene
    5.0 out of 5 stars The Degeneres closet was totally empty of all family secrets!
    Reviewed in Canada on March 10, 2016
    I really enjoyed this book. Betty DeGeneres is such a good mother and writes an amazing account of her daughter Ellen's struggle towards stardom despite all the obstacles thrown in her daughter's path to date. Betty's support of Ellen's career and gay lifestyle really touched my heart. I also admired Betty's overt hands-on approach by making speeches publicly for the normalization of gay rights all across the United States. Who wouldn't want such a loving, devoted and protective mother as Betty DeGeneres...kudo's for bravely writing this book for Ellen..well done!
  • Morgane C.
    5.0 out of 5 stars Livre très utile, dommage qu'il ne soit pas traduit pour les non bilingues, livre à méditer.
    Reviewed in France on July 15, 2016
    J'ai acheté ce livre au format papier il y a quelques année puis racheté en version Kindle il y à 2 mois pour le relire (je n'avais pas le livre avec moi).

    Je ne sais pas si ce livre peut intéresser et/ou aider beaucoup de monde en France caf il est en anglais et n'a jamais été traduit en français.
    Mais je pense quand même que des personnes parlent anglais en France, la preuve, et que ça peut soit intéresser des personnes par curiosité, par intérêt soit en aider d'autres et tant mieux.
    Aussi c'est pour cette raison que je vais vous "expliquer" l'idée de base de ce livre.

    Betty DeGeneres est la maman de Ellen DeGeneres qui, à l'époque où se livre à été écrit était comédienne, actrice, pas connue de tous. Aujourd'hui aux moins États-Unis, mais dans le monde aussi, elle est connue de tous pour être la présentatrice du célèbre talk-show "The Ellen DeGeneres Show".
    Donc Betty DeGeneres, après le coming-out de sa fille Ellen en 1997, est devenue la première porte-parole non LGBT pour "The Human Rights Campaign's National Coming Out Project".

    Elle a choisi d'écrire se livre pour aider les personnes à faire leurs coming out, les aider s'ils l'avaient fait et avait été rejeté par leur famille.
    Elle voulait aussi aider les parents qui, comme elle, apprennent plus ou moins brutalement que leur/leurs enfant(s) "ne sont pas qui ils pensaient". Les aider à se remettre du choc, à accepter et à continuer à vivre comme avant (puisque finalement, c'est toujours la même personne qui est en face de vous...)

    Dans ce livre elle raconte sa naissance, son enfance, adolescence, l'amour, le mariage, les enfants puis Ellen. Jusqu'au jour où elle lui annonce qu'elle est gay et là elle nous explique, avec beaucoup d'honnêteté, le processus psychologique qu'à été le sien, ce qu'elle a fait, pensé et dit.

    Pour ceux que ça intéresse, je vous laisse découvrir la suite.

    Sachez que si vous avez du mal à faire votre coming out auprès de vos parents, ce livre peut grandement vous aider.
    De la même façon, si un ou plusieurs de vos enfants, un frère, une sœur, un ou une ami(e), un cousin, une cousine, un proche où je ne sais qui d'autre vous a annoncé son homosexualité et que vous avez du mal à l'accepter, lisez se livre s'il vous plaît. Ne rejetez pas quelqu'un que vous aimez parce qu'il est différent de vous, parce qu'il est homosexuel.

    Si vous comprenez l'anglais, lisez au moins se livre avant de prendre une décision attive que vous pourriez regretter trop tard.

    PS: Je précise que dans le livre papiers une dizaine de pages de photos se trouvent au milieu du livre. Ces photo ne se trouvent pas sur la version Kindle (même sur Kindle en couleur comme le Fire).
  • miriam
    5.0 out of 5 stars a fascinating read
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 11, 2014
    i was initially skeptical but once i started reading i was hooked, very interesting to hear it from the perspective of ellen's mum and how she coped with being thrust into the spotlight on the back of ellen's success. a very inspirational lady.

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