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Welcoming a New Brother or Sister Through Adoption Kindle Edition

by Arleta James (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
3.5 3.5 out of 5 stars 14 ratings
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Adoption is a big step which can change the whole dynamics of the family. It is crucial that parents understand the impact it has when new sibling relationships are forged and an adoptee becomes a part of the family.

Welcoming a New Brother or Sister through Adoption is a comprehensive yet accessible guide that describes the adoption process and the impact of adoption on every member of the family, including the adopted child. It prepares families to have realistic expectations and equips them with knowledge to deal with a host of situations that may arise, addressing difficult questions head-on: 'Did we make the right choice by adopting?', 'How is this affecting our 'typical' children?', 'Will our adopted son or daughter heal?' are explored and solutions discussed in detail. All this is accompanied with real life stories and direct quotes from children, which make it a realistic and insightful resource.

This book is vital reading for adoptive families and professionals who work with them including social workers, counselors and psychologists.

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This book is written by an adoption professional... The book mainly focuses on integrating traumatised children into families that typically have children already, whether birth, adopted or step. The book covers all aspects of the needs of traumatised children and their behaviour, as well as lots of parenting advice and help. I especially liked the case studies... I found it incredibly informative. Author: Side by Side

James has produced an extremely practical, theoretically based book which will have many parents laughing and sometimes, crying...Whether you are interested in pre-placement issues, post-placement concerns, disruption/dissolution, sexual acting out, blending siblings, or marital stress, Welcoming a New Brother or Sister Through Adoption will have something to offer you...I believe that every adoptive family will be better able to deal with difficulties that their children and family may be experiencing. Adoption agencies should consider making this book mandatory reading as a component of their pre-placement training program, and anyone who works with adoptive families will appreciate the deep insight that Arleta James has shared with us. Author: Extracted from the foreword by Gregory C. Keck

About the Author

Arleta James, LPCC is Founder and Director of Adoption & Attachment Therapy Partners LLC. She has been an adoption professional for 20 years. She spent 15 years providing adoption-attachment-trauma informed therapies at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio and several years as a caseworker for the Pennsylvania Statewide Adoption Network placing foster children with adoptive families. She then served as the statewide Matching Specialist. Arleta is a member of the International Society for Neurofeedback and Research, Ohio Counseling Association and the North American Council on Adoptable Children.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00CKWQELK
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Jessica Kingsley Publishers (March 28, 2013)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ March 28, 2013
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 2372 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 338 pages
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I have been an adoption professional for over 15 years. I spent several years as a caseworker for the Pennsylvania Statewide Adoption Network placing foster children with adoptive families and I now work as a therapist providing services for attachment difficulties, childhood trauma and issues related to adoption. I was the 1999 Pennsylvania Adoption Professional of the Year. I am currently on staff at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio - www.abcofohio.net. I have a passion for helping each member of adoptive families - parents, brothers, sisters and the adoptee - flourish and thrive!

Visit me at www.arletajames.com or facebook!

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Adoptions From The Heart
4.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful guide to family dynamics in adoption
Reviewed in the United States on May 31, 2013
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Arleta James has written a book about the dynamics of families formed by adoption. Whether you are interested in pre-placement issues, post-placement concerns, disruption/dissolution, sexual acting out, blending siblings, or marital stress, this book will have something to offer. James focuses on how a child's past influences his blending into the family in a comprehensive, way that is not bogged down with academic details and big complicated vocabulary. Throughout the book, James includes stories of the adoptive families she has helped, giving real life examples and real life hope. A fabulous book to help families navigate the ups and downs and ins and outs of weaving together a family through adoption.
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M. Hardee
2.0 out of 5 stars On p100 and forcing myself to continue
Reviewed in the United States on September 7, 2016
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So far, this is the MOST discouraging, hope-killing thing I have read in all of our adoption education. I know adoption will be harder than I can really imagine and that is why I am seeking out experienced professionals for resources. Especially to try to prepare and do what is best for both our son already at home and our soon-to-arrive international adoptee.
The reviews online praised the author for her honesty and realistic presentation. However, I was under the impression that the book was going to ALSO offer strategies for helping your family and all the children to deal with and hopefully overcome the challenges we will face. So far, I just keep getting the message over and over that I am going to be ruining the life of our previously adopted son and destroying my marriage relationship too! She presents lists of good, self-reflection questions but sandwiches them between vignettes and quotes from adoptive families that are roughly 90% negative. There aren't any tips on how to deal with all the loaded stuff those questions just unpacked. Not even a "if this was hard for you, find a counselor and talk it out."
I keep hoping that she is presenting the problems up front and will have the "here's what to do about them" strategies in later chapters, but I doubt it more with every chapter.
While I have not yet read through Karyn Purvis' book "The Connected Child", I have now attended her ETC conference twice. She also was direct and did not shy away from the reality and struggles our children would have. And addressed that personal issues would resurface for the parents to deal with too. But she always wrapped her messages in hope and healing.
Heck! Even the depressingly pessimistic required reading for The Hague Convention adoptions would include at least a line about how adoptees and their families have developed good coping mechanisms or treatment by adulthood!
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Tammia
5.0 out of 5 stars a book that addresses the whole family (and how adoption changes the dynamics)
Reviewed in the United States on September 23, 2013
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This book provides an honest, sensitive, common-sense approach to how to juggle all the new family dynamics when a traumatized child enters the family. It is clear that Arleta has much experience with this topic and answers many questions I had been searching for as both an adoptive mother and a sibling of adoptees. Everyone is affected by the adoptee's hurting heart...even siblings (no matter their age) and this is the first book I've read that gives practical advice on how to meet so many complex needs. After completing this book, I felt validated and understood (with new courage and motivation). Excellent book, thank you.
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Stephanie Reynolds
2.0 out of 5 stars I found some helpful information, however, there was ...
Reviewed in the United States on December 2, 2016
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I found some helpful information, however, there was a lot more than the title indicates and I am specially seeking information to help us integrate our bio-son with our adopted child. I haven't been successful finding resources on that part of the process.
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Pam Kerestus
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Reviewed in the United States on February 17, 2015
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Very good info
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Danyel M Rieth
5.0 out of 5 stars IT SHOULD BE MANDATORY TO READ BY ALL WITHIN THE ADOPTION WORLD.
Reviewed in the United States on June 6, 2013
This book is everything you could, should, and would want to know about the pre- and post- adoption family dynamics. I, like many others, have a library of books on all aspects of adoption, trauma, early brain development and theraputic parenting. You might be wondering what else can you hear or read... how about the TRUTH!!! This book tells you all the heartfelt FACTS of traumatized children; EXPECTATIONS that are unrealistic and often unattainable; REALIZATIONS of a new normal; the true FEELINGS experienced, hidden and told from the voices of all family members.

The TRUTH, is something that Arleta is very well known for. She is straightforward and open, each page representing the integrity and insightfullness that she brings to the world of adoption. Her passion, dedication and tireless effort to educate and comfort are so poginantly evident in each chapter. It is like having her right next to you, telling you everything you need to know about bringing home an adopted child. The good, the bad and the ugly.. but all the absolute truth. This book is filled with an abundance of strategies, skills and tools to use for the betterment of the entire family.

FINALLY a book that tells what(most)adoption agencies and (most)social workers are not telling prespective adoptive parents. From my own personal experience of adopting, no one has even come close to what Arleta has acheived in this masterpeice of artwork. It truly is a mural of words that paints a clear picture of adoptions beautifully complex array of feelings. Allowing us to see into the distorted simplicity of wanting to be accepted and never given up on again, no matter what.

This is unquestionably THE MUST HAVE of 'must have' books about adoption.

Thank You Arleta for such a wonderful gift to the world!
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Pete
4.0 out of 5 stars Very informative and useful. We've got one adopted child and are actively ...
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 21, 2017
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Very informative and useful. We've got one adopted child and are actively working on approval for a second one. This book is helpful. Potentially a little academic !
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Queenbea
4.0 out of 5 stars Useful resource
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 19, 2015
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Although it is slightly orientated to the American market I have found the book useful with adoption applicants who have a birth child or have adopted before
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