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Elegy for Iris Kindle Edition
"I was living in a fairy story--the kind with sinister overtones and not always a happy ending--in which a young man loves a beautiful maiden who returns his love but is always disappearing into some unknown and mysterious world, about which she will reveal nothing."
So John Bayley describes his life with his wife, Iris Murdoch, one of the greatest contemporary writers in the English-speaking world, revered for her works of philosophy and beloved for her incandescent novels.
In Elegy for Iris, Bayley attempts to uncover the real Iris, whose mysterious world took on darker shades as she descended into Alzheimer's disease. Elegy for Iris is a luminous memoir about the beauty of youth and aging, and a celebration of a brilliant life and an undying love.
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherSt. Martin's Press
- Publication dateOctober 15, 2013
- File size994 KB
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"Without a hint of sentimentality, treats hopelessly sad things in a manner that celebrates eternal human verity...Magnificently, hauntingly humane." --Michael Pakenham, The Baltimore Sun
"Bayley's restrained and elegant love song to his wife of 42 years...is beautiful and heartbreaking. Full of spirit, generous and resilient." --Gail Caldwell, The Boston Globe
"A heart-melting love story and an erudite inquiry into the nature of personality, memory, and invention. Wise and full of grace." --Shelby Hearon, The Chicago Tribune
--This text refers to the cassette edition.From Publishers Weekly
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to the cassette edition.
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“This splendid book enlarges our imagination of the range and possibilities of love.” ―Mary Gordon, The New York Times Book Review
“Magnificently, hauntingly humane.” ―Michael Pakenham, The Baltimore Sun
“Bayley's restrained and elegant love song to his wife of 42 years . . . is beautiful and heartbreaking. Full of spirit, generous and resilient.” ―Gail Caldwell, The Boston Globe
“A beautifully rendered portrait . . . Bayley reaffirms how suffering can ennoble the human heart. [Elegy for Iris] is an affecting remembrance of one of the great literary marriages of our time. It celebrates the victory of life--and love.” ―Wendell Brock, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
“A heart-melting love story and an erudite inquiry into the nature of personality, memory, and invention. Wise and full of grace.” ―Shelby Hearon, The Chicago Tribune
“Elegy for Iris is a work of art. As beautiful as it is wise, Elegy for Iris has already become a classic memoir and a remedy for modern love. Read it and, if you dare, give it to someone you love.” ―Tom D'Evelyn, Providence Sunday Journal
“Here, between the covers of an incredible book, is love . . . that doesn't hedge, love for which there are no ready outs, love that feels as inevitable as breathing, and the result is stunning.” ―Abraham Verghese,The Los Angeles Times Book Review
“Heartfelt and admirably unsentimental . . . a testament to a love that has endured and transcended the most terrifying ravages of illness and old age.” ―Francine Prose, Elle
“In Elegy for Iris I find my mother and father, my wife's parents, our friends, and us. I find shared lives, and hurts and forgivenesses, and joys that are greatest because nobody else knows them.” ―Dan Rather
--This text refers to the cassette edition.Amazon.com Review
About the Author
John Bayley is an eminent literary critic who taught at Oxford for more than 30 years, and was chairman of the Booker Prize Committee. Iris Murdoch died in February of 1999.
--This text refers to the cassette edition.From Library Journal
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to the cassette edition.
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- ASIN : B00F8G6G54
- Publisher : St. Martin's Press (October 15, 2013)
- Publication date : October 15, 2013
- Language : English
- File size : 994 KB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Sticky notes : On Kindle Scribe
- Print length : 220 pages
- Best Sellers Rank: #892,734 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #252 in Biographies of Philosophers (Kindle Store)
- #564 in Alzheimer's Disease
- #955 in Philosopher Biographies
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I originally picked the book up because of my interest in Alzheimer's. There is little on this through the first section of the book, labeled "Then," but Bayley's prose is nimble and his observations about his courtship with Iris and their long marriage are both fresh and tender. The title of the book is exact: this is an elegy for Iris Murdoch, and a lovely portrait of England's much-beloved writer.
Still, once Bayley enters the "Now" section my interest in the book doubles, as we hear how anxious Iris has grown, how uncommunicative and fearful. The last fifty pages of the book, presented as dated journal entries, are genius. Here are Iris and John, at ten every morning, watching Teletubbies on the BBC. "There are the rabbits!" Bayley says. The author, it's worth noting, is one of England's best-known literary critics--but one of his charms is how completely he yields to what has happened to Iris's mind, and to the demands of her care.
Not inevitably, of course, for there are times he grows frantic. "Iris's fear of other people if I'm not there is so piteous that I cannot bring myself to arrange for care-givers to `keep her company,' or to take her to the age therapy unit." As a result: "Wild wish to shout in her ear, `It's worse for me. It's much worse!'"
Day by day they grow physically closer, more tightly bound. Their old independence is gone, and Bayley must live with that. After forty years of taking their marriage for granted, he says, "marriage has decided it is tired of this, and is taking a hand in the game. Purposefully, persistently, involuntarily, our marriage is now getting somewhere. It is giving us no choice--and I am glad of that."
Bayley never pontificates. He has no helpful tricks, no suggestions on how to make things better. Instead, he gives us agile descriptions of how he and Iris swim together, lie in bed together, take trips together, go to parties and talk to strangers--as month by month it all grows more impossible. Like marriage, Alzheimer's has taken a hand in the game, which they will play out to the end.
“Elegy for Iris,” is released almost a year before her death, when her body is going through the motions of living that her mind has long since abandoned. Murdoch’s fall is even more horrifying given her stature and accomplishments at the height of her literary powers. The disease transforms an erudite and vibrant woman into a murmuring simpleton who delights in watching “Teletubbies,” a children’s show, on the television.
In contrast to many other memoirs about disease, “Elegy” mentions doctors only one time, and it is in the context of her brain scans reminding Bayley of a map of the Amazon – vast, dark and unknown. That kind of poetic interpretation infuses this entire work. The disease is what she now isn’t, and her absence is heartbreaking. The loss feels palatable even if you don’t know her work. “Elegy” is a sad but lyrical tribute to an amazing woman by the deft writing of a devoted and literate husband.
There is still, as should be, much curiosity about the Platonist philosopher and writer of many novels, Iris Murdoch. In this memoir, John Bailey relates tales of his relationship with Iris, his wife. He talks of their initial meetings, their marriage, their dwelling spaces, and those special little affinities and gestures that only exist in a long-term congenial marriage. He speaks of his own minor conceits and foibles in a very honest and telling way. And he describe's his wife's behavior as Altzheimer's sufferer.
I got the feeling (perhaps wrongly) that Bailey started this record up during her illness to deal with it, as one deals with other aspects of life through use of a diary or journal. As evidence, toward the end of the book, he does shift outright to journal entries. It appeared to me that he might have started the journaling, then swung back to the beginning to take a longer view of their relationship. These sections o fthe book are appropriately labeled "Then" and "Now."
The book is very descriptive of their life together. Even though they were different, their differences complemented each other. And they did have common interests--in nature, swimming, travel, their living spaces, their friends and acquaintances.
From Bailey's description, you get the feeling someone truly important is now missing from the world.
Nicely done.
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Memoir is as much about the writer as about the person being remembered...I wonder what he left out.