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Talking to Ourselves: A Novel Kindle Edition

4.1 out of 5 stars 71 ratings

A searing family drama from one of Latin America's most original voices
One trip. Two love stories. Three voices.

Lito is ten years old and is almost sure he can change the weather when he concentrates very hard. His father, Mario, anxious to create a memory that will last for his son's lifetime, takes him on a road trip in a truck called Pedro. But Lito doesn't know that this might be their last trip: Mario is gravely ill. Together, father and son embark on a journey takes them through strange geographies that seem to meld the different parts of the Spanish-speaking world. In the meantime, Lito's mother, Elena, restlessly seeks support in books, and soon undertakes an adventure of her own that will challenge her moral limits. Each narrative—of father, son, and mother—embodies one of the different ways that we talk to ourselves: through speech, through thought, and through writing. While neither of them dares to tell the complete truth to the other two, their individual voices nonetheless form a poignant conversation.

Sooner or later, we all face loss. Andrés Neuman movingly narrates the ways the lives of those who survive loss are transformed; how that experience changes our ideas about time, memory, and our own bodies; and how the acts of reading, and of sex, can serve as powerful modes of resistance.
Talking to Ourselves presents a tender yet unsentimental portrait of the workings of love and family; a reflection both on grief and on the consolation of words. Neuman, the author of the award-winning Traveler of the Century, displays his characteristic warmth, bittersweet humor, and wide-ranging intellect, giving us the rich, textured, and strikingly different voices and experiences of three singular characters while presenting, above all, a profound tribute to those who have ever had to care for a loved one.

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*Starred Review* After the success of his first novel translated into English, the award-winning Traveler of the Century (2012), Neuman delivers an intimate and honest portrait of estranged love and inevitable loss in taut, exacting prose. This powerful short novel follows 10-year-old Lito, his mother Elena, who is an aspiring academic, and his ailing father, Mario. Father and son embark on one final road trip to transact a questionable delivery, while Elena struggles with sexual temptation and depression in their absence. The narration alternates between Lito’s stream of thought, entries in Elena’s daily journal, and a transcript of Mario speaking, recorded in a hospital room. Lito muses on the latest video games and composes shorthand text messages (“d sz we r v nr wl cl u sn xx”) that his mother finds nearly indecipherable. Elena busies herself with scholarly work, citing authors as varied as Kenzaburo Oe and Irène Némirovsky. Mario teases his son with playful nicknames, like “grumpy arthropod” and “meddlesome marmot.” Neuman’s pitch-perfect, sympathetic characters create an intensely moving story that resists both saccharine sentimentality and easy closure. This nuanced juxtaposition of perspectives solidifies Neuman’s place in the Spanish-language literary pantheon alongside César Aira, Roberto Bolaño, and Javier Marías. --Diego Báez

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“Neuman is one of the rare writers who can distill the most complex human emotions with apparent effortlessness. Bolaño's prophecy seems to have come true: Andrés Neuman has transcended the boundaries of geography, time, and language to become one of the most significant writers of the early twenty-first century.” ―Alex McElroy, Music and Literature

“This triptych of a dying man's commitment to his family and their response will infuse readers with its poignant, realistic experience.” ―Lawrence Olszewski, Library Journal

“An intimate and honest portrait of estranged love and inevitable loss in taut, exacting prose . . . Neuman's pitch-perfect, sympathetic characters create an intensely moving story that resists both saccharine sentimentality and easy closure. This nuanced juxtaposition of perspectives solidifies Neuman's place in the Spanish-language literary pantheon.” ―Diego Báez, Booklist (starred review)

“[A] gem of a novel, Talking to Ourselves is a profound meditation on illness, death and bereavement and brilliantly illustrates literature's ability to help readers confront and understand mortality . . . Neuman is a master craftsman.” ―Lucy Popescu, The Independent

“This is writing of a quality rarely encountered, which actually feels as though it touches on reality, translating something experienced into words, without loss of detail or clarity. That shouldn't be rare but when you read Neuman's beautiful novel, you realise a very high bar has been set.” ―Jane Housham, The Guardian

“An exceptional work of considerable emotional breadth. While the story itself may well be dolorous, it radiates with an authenticity that can often be elusive in fiction. There's a vibrancy and liveliness to Neuman's writing (as well-evidenced, too, in Traveler of the Century) that is irresistible. Even if one were not captivated by his arresting tale, persuasive characters, or sonorous prose, the impassioned effects of his storytelling are inescapable.” ―Jeremy Garber, Three Percent

“At the heart of this braided tale is a profound grief, but at the heart of that grief is the ecstatic joy of living. We come to see how lives are built out of passing detail, the flicker of small incidents, the intervention of literature, and the trace of forgotten things. Talking to Ourselves is both brilliant and wise, and Andrés Neuman is destined to be one of the essential writers of our time.” ―Teju Cole, author of Open City

“Neuman's first novel to be translated into English, Traveler of the Century, was an enormous feat of fabulism, and was critically acclaimed when it appeared here in 2012. Talking to Ourselves demonstrates Neuman's range by running in completely the opposite direction. This comparatively short work is set in the present day, and alternates among the voices of three family members. For those who missed Traveler of the Century, it may be an equally potent introduction to Neuman's work.” ―The Millions

“Moving and intelligent.” ―Justin Alvarez, The Paris Review

“Appealing to both intellect and emotion, this splendid novel from Neuman (Traveler of the Century) grapples with important questions and features well-developed, nuanced characters . . . Joy, regret, hope--it's all here.” ―Publishers Weekly (starred review)

“A novelist of rare talent . . . at the book's end, the reader wishes for more pages: to see Lito grow up, to see if Elena remakes her life . . . That happens when the writer has the touch of a poet.” ―Grazia Giordani, L'Arena

“There are many reasons to love Andrés Neuman . . . The biggest reason is, of course, his writing. In Talking to Ourselves . . . he gives a luminous confirmation of this . . . Each character talks to himself, but in the end they speak for all of us.” ―Riccardo Staglianò, La Reppublica

“An exciting and risky literary adventure, brought to life with remarkable stylistic subtlety . . . Rich, complex, and playful, this novel by Andrés Neuman is, by far, one of the most valuable and stylistically substantial literary works I've read in recent years.” ―Carlo Algeri, El Gran Otro

“[Neuman] is not only capable of navigating different genres, writing works both long or short, and locating himself in eras both distant or contemporary, he also has a great delicacy in taking the reader by the hand to the frontiers of pain.” ―Elena Méndez, Siempre México

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00FILH9Y6
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Farrar, Straus and Giroux (April 8, 2014)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ April 8, 2014
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 2.9 MB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 161 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
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"...Love, loss, sadness, joy, acceptance, forgiveness, grief, and understanding run through this work like tracks that cover a landscape of many..." Read more

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  • Reviewed in the United States on May 16, 2014
    This book explores death and dying in such a personal and beautiful way with nuances that had never occurred to me. It is so rich in its expression of feelings and the confusion of watching a loved one slowly die.
    The only objection I have is the way the son was left out of the loop of what was really happening to his father. He was never allowed a natural closure and it felt like he was cheated.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on June 21, 2014
    I enjoyed the way it was written from three separate perspectives on the same situation. It was shorter than I expected so was a little disappointed. It is a dark story about death and dying and how it affects loved ones around the one who is dying. Although I didn't always agree with the decisions the characters made, I also didn't think it was up to me to judge what people do in this kind of situation. Grammatically unusual which worked part of the time but not always. Occasionally, the sense was obscure. Not a must read but would recommend it.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on March 1, 2017
    One need not complete this book to write a review of it. Though the ending may startle with a twist or surprise, though Act II is yet to be fully fleshed out, the quality of the reading experience is on clear display. There is both a wonderful joy and a heartbreaking sadness here. The insights, the empathy and maturity of this work, belie the author's relative youth. He is either endowed with a prodigious but calm and quiet imagination or he has suffered. Love, loss, sadness, joy, acceptance, forgiveness, grief, and understanding run through this work like tracks that cover a landscape of many journeys undertaken simultaneously. Here is a book worthy of your time and emotions.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on May 8, 2021
    This was a very good read. It was so interesting reading from the perspective of the various characters- the sick, the caretaker and the shielded youth. This book was very interesting and entertaining.
  • Reviewed in the United States on July 9, 2014
    Remarkable novel. Story told from the perspective of three people; a child, ahusband and wife. Each one, in there own voice tell a similar story from their perspective. The writing is so beautiful as the translation is remarkable. I highly recommend the book. Each voice is clear representing the feelings of each person. Neuman's use of literary quotations are the most unique I have ever read.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on June 10, 2014
    Interesting format of " talking to ourselves" -many passages rang true to how we all come into our own logic and moods. Difficult to follow at times and very dark.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on December 1, 2014
    a brilliantly introspective novel. as a mental health care professional, i can also attest to its authenticity. it made me laugh, it made me cry, and i'm considering it for one of my book clubs. have already recommended it to a number of friends. caution: it is NOT a happy story
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  • Reviewed in the United States on May 28, 2014
    The thoughts of three people dealing with illness and impending death is the premise of this novel.
    Lito, the ten year old boy
    Elena, the wife/mother
    Mario, the husband/father who is sick

    I never got a sense of who these people were and I still didn't like them.

    Mario is terminally ill but we don't know from what, or for how long, we are only allowed to surmise. Mario's chapters are sparse so we don't get much from him at all.

    Lito's chapters are also sparse, but not especially relevant since the boy has no idea his father is dying.

    Elena's chapters are over long, much longer than Mario and Lito's combined, with way too much referencing quotations from other books. (The author would like us to know that he is well read??)

    Elena, the wife/mother has a sleazy affair with her husband's doctor, Dr. Escalante, told in great sexual detail.

    I don't completely blame Elena for her sordid indiscretion, but Dr. Escalante, whose thoughts we are not privy to is a debauched, abhorrent doctor who has never heard of the Hippocratic Oath.

    It's only 148 pages, but it's 148 pages I could have done without.
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  • Herman Norford
    5.0 out of 5 stars Thouthts we Keep to Ourselves
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on September 1, 2020
    It is remarkable that in Talking to Ourselves, a short novel, Andres Neuman achieves so much. There is symbiotic love between father and son, the impact of stories upon our lives, loss, grief, alienation, dying, how those bereaved cope and deal with death and of course our inhibition of having open and honest conversations with each other.

    The novel explores the relationships between husband and wife and their son. Mario is married to Elena and they have a son, Lito. Mario and Lito finally manages to take a truck journey together, leaving Elena at home. She begins a relationship with the family doctor. Mario is suffering from a serious illness which he keeps from Lito. The journey provides space and an opportunity for the three characters to do some soul searching. Their reflections and thoughts conveyed to the reader, and between father and son, form the basis of individual-like monologues through out the novel.

    The monologue of each character is presented in a distinct voice, reflecting their current concerns. It is a well crafted novel as Neuman manages to to blend individual character voice with a distinct written style. Lito's sentences are short and simple which reveals his innocence as he is cast at the centre of his parents' concerns and relationship. Elena's monologue is rendered in a manner that reflects her education and deep understanding of the family's circumstances. In respect of Mario, in the main he addresses his son in a down right factual manner.

    There isn't much by way of a plot but if there is one it could be argued that the story is driven by the deterioration of Mario's health and its impact on the family. The family is left facing questions such as how do we deal with family trauma, can we be honest with each other and how do we communicate the reality that we face?

    In trying to address these questions, Elena's monologue turns into a profound and moving exploration of what does it actually mean to have someone close to you engulfed with a serious illness. For me this is the pulse of the novel. From its slow murmur, the novel suddenly takes on a heavy heart beat that forces the reader to reflect about our own understanding of and ability to empathize with other beings.

    Elena seems to find some kind of solace, peace and pearl of wisdom in the books she reads. Her reading experience is broad, from John Banville, Cynthia Ozicks, Sylvia platt, Virginia Woolf to Mario Levrero, among many others. This feature of the novel with it vast range of quotations from literature also served as Neuman's paean to literature.

    Neuman is very good in trying to give us an understanding of the process of facing one's last days. In one section, Mario addresses his son and part of what is revealed is the alienation that might be experienced in facing death. Mario tells his son: I don't want to touch anything that's part of my body, everything in my body is my enemy now, this is what it is to be dead".

    This short novel is a slow burner which packs profound issues into its content. At first, as I started reading I thought it should be rated about 3 stars but as my reading progressed it became clear that Neuman was saying something that is universal and profound. For me Talking to Ourselves is the best novel, that highlights issues about illness and dying, that I have read since reading Tolstoy's The Death of Ivan Ilych, many years ago.
  • Duke
    4.0 out of 5 stars Beautifully written and very well translated
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 11, 2014
    I read this book after hearing Andreas Neuman being interviewed on radio 4. It is told from the the perspective three people the husband wife and small son and he captures the separate voice of each wonderfully. A relatively short book that doesn't flag at any moment and carries you through this very moving story, highly recommended, it loses a star only because it's a quick read.
  • Dylan35
    5.0 out of 5 stars Beautiful
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on September 19, 2015
    Beautiful, timeless elegy to loss and grief...a deep meditation on literature, sex, pain and jealousy, with detours into childhood, innocence, ageing and memory. Universal themes, dealt with sensitively and with great style...three voices all in some state of denial, and all heading to the same dark inevitable conclusion. For anyone who has lost someone.
  • Catherine Harris
    5.0 out of 5 stars A stunning short novel
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 13, 2014
    A beautifully written story about a family trying to cope with grief.
    The husband has a terminal illness and he takes his son on a journey . Sad and wonderful .
  • Unleashed
    5.0 out of 5 stars This book hits deep into your heart
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 24, 2014
    Pain isolates, and the way we cope with that isolation. Profound, engaged and sad but somehow gives one a sense of closure.​

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