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The Way We Are: What Everyday Objects and Conventions Tell Us About Ourselves Kindle Edition

3.8 3.8 out of 5 stars 14 ratings

The beloved and bestselling “anthropologist of everyday life” turns her witty and insightful gaze to the oddities of living in our modern world

Over the course of her time as a contributor and editor for 
Saturday Night magazine—a span during which she published her award-winning book The Rituals of Dinner—Margaret Visser specialized in thought-provoking columns capable of turning the banal into the extraordinary. From high heels to showers to the metamorphosis of Santa Claus, these essays span an eclectic and engrossing range of topics perfect for Visser fans and newcomers alike. With academic rigor and a warm narrative style, she takes commonplace facets of everyday life—crossword puzzles, fireplaces, paid time off—and digs into their peculiar origins and surprising social legacies. In examining some of the most ordinary elements of life, Visser sorts through historical facts and cultural implications to reveal the hidden assumptions behind our modern behavior.
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Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Award-winning Toronto author Visser (Much Depends on Dinner) packs a wealth of intriguing information into this collection of witty essays. All but one of the deceptively short pieces were originally published in Saturday Night magazine and have as their subject matter quite commonplace objects and activities of everyday life. Visser's forte is to take the ordinary and turn it into the extraordinary by providing a cultural history of its evolution (each piece has a bibliography). The practice of showering, for example, was considered dangerous and became habitual only in the last 40 years, after central heating. Until the 1900s, when they established themselves as "professionals," doctors and lawyers accepted tips in the same manner that waiters and hairdressers do today. The concept of paid vacations has its roots in 1920s fascist Italy, where workers were ordered to take time off to exercise their bodies. An insightful volume that will delight both fans and newcomers to Visser's writing.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Booklist

Visser, a Canadian author and columnist, has won awards for her previous books, including The Rituals of Dinner (1991), and has acquired a loyal following in the U.S. In this collection of pithy essays, Visser treats us to the full range of her shrewd powers of observation and skilled articulation. Nothing is too small or too commonplace to elude Visser's keen eye and mind. In fact, she finds that paying sustained attention to "small, humble, taken-for-granted objects and demeanors" reveals the underpinnings of society's shifting attitudes and values. Visser analyzes our food preferences, fashion choices from high heels to blue jeans to suntans, and the etiquette of everything from blushing to kissing, tipping, and spitting. She also discusses the differences between floorsitters and chairsitters, the origin of valentines, the evolution of Santa Claus, and the institutionalization of paid vacations. Visser's perfect, exhilarating prose turns on a dime as she negotiates complex twists and hairpin turns of thought with poise and grace. Donna Seaman

Product details

  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00X4YMQZQ
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Open Road Media (June 23, 2015)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ June 23, 2015
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 1715 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 300 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
    3.8 3.8 out of 5 stars 14 ratings

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3.8 out of 5 stars
3.8 out of 5
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Reviewed in the United States on December 29, 2019
Fun facts to know and tell—if you’re a nerd who delights in etymology or cultural history. But I’m sorry—Santa Claus is *not* phallic.
Reviewed in the United States on May 17, 2001
...but it is good, clean, fun urban anthropolgy. Whether she's looking at gloves or stockings or wigs or the way we eat our food, Margaret Visser's essays are always light-hearted journeys through things we'd otherwise take for granted.
Other reviewers here have said this book is useless, since the information Visser collects is available elsewhere. That may be true, but what she does is bring it all together and present it in a uniformly enjoyable fashion.
I, for one, don't want to pend years sifting through all the sociology, anthropology and history texts that Visser has, just to unearth the "trivial" tidbits she brings to light. So I'm just grateful that she does all the dirty work, and happy for books like hers that I can flip through in my spare time.
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Reviewed in Canada on June 9, 2017
Exactly what I wanted and exected
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