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The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others Kindle Edition
Break the pattern of losing yourself in other people’s problems with this “outstanding resource and must-read for every compulsive rescuer” (Ronald F. Levant, Ed. D.).
Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or helpless people? Are you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for constant reassurance in relationships? Do you try to “save” people from themselves?
In legends and fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner’s behavior or life. It’s a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending.
Hoping to receive validation and love from their partners, white knights only cheat themselves out of emotionally healthy relationships. If this sounds like you, it's time to come to your own rescue. With engaging insight and informative case studies, The White Knight Syndrome is a guide to understanding and resolving the white knight syndrome in yourself.
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherA.R. Shephard & Co.
- Publication dateAugust 9, 2021
- File size1481 KB
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-Ronald F. Levant, Ed.D., past president of the American Psychological Association and professor of psychology at Buchtel College of Arts and Sciences at the University of Akron in Akron, OH
From the Publisher
Ready to come to your own rescue? The White Knight Syndrome will help you:
- Discover why you attract or seek out needy or damaged partners
- Find out what type of white knight you are
- Recognize the unhealthy ways you try to meet your partner's needs while ignoring your own
- Channel your energies into building balanced, healthy relationships "Lamia and Krieger have hit the nail on the head by identifying a major problem in contemporary relationships-the compulsive need to rescue. Their book, The White Knight Syndrome, clearly articulates the dynamics of this all-too-common pattern. This book is an outstanding resource and a must-read for every compulsive rescuer, as well as for mental health students and professionals."
-Ronald F. Levant, Ed.D., past president of the American Psychological Association and professor of psychology at Buchtel College of Arts and Sciences at the University of Akron in Akron, OH"This book is aimed at anyone who recognizes that the white knight syndrome may explain feelings of betrayal, anger, or guilt. Because the book does such a good job with explaining the complex emotional lives of rescuers, it can be a great resource for therapists as well as clients."
-Michael J. Garanzini, S.J., Ph.D., president of Loyola University in Chicago, IL, and author of Child-Centered Schools and The Attachment Cycle"The authors of The White Knight Syndrome are experienced and insightful clinicians. Building on their extensive professional work as psychotherapists, they have delivered a compelling, concise, and highly useful delineation of a repetitive but maladaptive pattern of needing to compulsively rescue others. Moreover, they show how to move forward in life to an adaptive pattern they call a balanced rescuer: a person who cares, preserves intimacy, and also develops even more self-esteem. I enthusiastically recommend this outstanding book."
-Mardi Horowitz, MD, president of the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis, professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco, and author of A Course in Happiness"The White Knight Syndrome is unique among psychology books because it is so well-written. The case descriptions are engaging, and the 'Thinking About It' sections brilliantly incorporate the reader's experience into the dialogue so that the material presented becomes personally relevant. The White Knight Syndrome is a great piece of work."
-Sylvia Boorstein, Ph.D., psychotherapist and founding teacher and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, CA, author of It's Easier Than You Think and Happiness Is an Inside Job
About the Author
Mary C. Lamia, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in Marin County, CA. She is also a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA.
Marilyn J. Krieger, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Marin County, CA.
Product details
- ASIN : B09NN6R48X
- Publisher : A.R. Shephard & Co. (August 9, 2021)
- Publication date : August 9, 2021
- Language : English
- File size : 1481 KB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Sticky notes : On Kindle Scribe
- Print length : 218 pages
- Best Sellers Rank: #504,280 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #132 in Couples & Family Therapy
- #156 in Codependency (Kindle Store)
- #528 in Mate Seeking (Kindle Store)
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I'm a clinical psychologist in Marin County, California and a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Teaching the public about the psychology of human behavior has been my endeavor throughout my career. Please visit my website: www.marylamia.com
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Counselors and clinicians have known this for years. However, too often they have lacked the language and techniques to do much about this widespread problem. The White Knight Syndrome is the first realistic account that suggests concrete solutions for the too common problems or rescuers and their intended targets.
A strength of this book is that it recognizes that there are diverse motives that give rise to rescuing behaviors. Most are rooted in early childhood experiences and involves a coping style characterized by excessive altruism as at "deserving" people. These rescuers are not just "People who love too much" but "People who love the wrong people too much". Typically these rescuing feelings arise in response to childhood traumas, bullying, feelings of inadequacy, abandonment, or insecurities. Yet rescuing rarely work successfully and has a host of difficulties when applied to complex adult situations.
The authors suggest that as an alternative the rescuer needs to learn new strategies to move forward in life. They can learn to love positive aspects of themselves. rejecting the negative and irrational ones. They can recognize their patterns and then open up to the facts that they might be projecting personality aspects onto current relationships. Finally, although rescuers may always have some of these "saving" tendencies, they can learn to be more balanced and ultimately happier and less destructive with love and life.
Does this approach work? Well, as a therapist I have recommended this book over 14 times and received 14 positive feedbacks. To me that says something. The statistician/researcher side of me could find lots of problems with the previous sentence but it is enough for me to keep recommending The White Knight Syndrome. I've also recommended it to acquaintances who uniformly have said, "You know that book really helped me a lot!" To me that shows that Lamia and Krieger are onto something useful, powerful, and effective.
Bruce McDermott
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I'll leave it at that, the book is well worth it.