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Boundaries in Marriage Kindle Edition

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Learn how setting healthy boundaries in your marriage can strengthen—or even save—your relationship with your spouse.

Most marital conflicts are boundary conflicts where one person crosses the lines of responsibility and respect. When couples learn to embrace personal responsibility and to respect each other’s freedom, love is allowed to thrive.

Whether you're happy in your marriage and want to keep growing, or if you're struggling with increasing disconnection, Boundaries in Marriage will give you the tools you need to:

  • Set and maintain personal boundaries while respecting those of your partner.
  • Understand and practice two key ingredients to a successful marriage: freedom and responsibility.
  • Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for your marriage.
  • Protect your marriage from different kinds of "intruders."
  • Work with a spouse who is resistant to boundaries.

 

In Boundaries in Marriage, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, will show you how healthy marriages are marriages with boundaries. They promote love by protecting individuals.

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If you are interested in this book, most likely marriage is important to you. You may be happy in your marriage and want it to keep growing. You may be struggling and dealing with major or minor problems. You may be single and want to prepare for marriage. You may be divorced and want to prevent the pain you went through if you remarry.

We need to make clear that this book is not about fixing, changing, or punishing your mate. If you aren’t in control of yourself, the solution is not learning to control someone else. It is more about taking ownership of your own life so that you are protected and you can love and protect your spouse without enabling or rescuing him or her.

We hope this is a helpful resource for you, whatever condition your marriage is in. We pray that as you learn to make the word no a good word in your marriage, responsibility and freedom will then help love take deep roots in both of your hearts. God bless you.

Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

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Other Boundaries books by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend This hands-on workbook, companion to Boundaries in Marriage, will help you move beyond friction points to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy you and your spouse long for. Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, coworkers, and even themselves, in order to live life to the fullest. For when your trust has been broken: discover how to set firm boundaries again, how to connect deeply without being hurt, and how to safely grow your most intimate relationships. Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage. Yes, you can say no to your child and still be a loving parent. Discover how setting biblical boundaries can make your parenting better today! Establish wise and loving limits that make a positive difference in your teen, in the rest of your family, and in you.

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Establishing and understanding boundaries are crucial to the success of a marriage, according to authors Cloud and Townsend, who cowrote the award-winning and biblically-based book Boundaries. For example, boundaries help us understand where one person ends and the other begins, the authors claim: "Once we know the boundaries, we know who should be owning the problem we are wrestling with," they write. "This issue of ownership is vital to any relationship, especially marriage." But more significantly, couples need to claim and take responsibility for the "treasures that lie within their individual borders," such as: "feelings, attitudes, behaviors, choices, limits, desires, thoughts, values, talents, and love." Based on the book that elevated them to national prominence, Cloud and Townsend caution readers not to use this self-help manifesto as a means to change one's spouse. Rather, this is a book about taking responsibility for oneself in all aspects of life, but especially within the boundaries of marital commitment.

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Two lives becoming one: That s the marriage ideal. But maybe you ve discovered that it s easier said than done. How do you solve problems? How do you establish healthy communication? How do you work out conflict and deal with the struggle of differing needs? In the process of knitting two souls together, it s easy to tear the fabric.

That s why boundaries the ways we define and maintain our sense of individuality, freedom, and personal integrity are so important. And it s why the principles described in Boundaries in Marriage are essential if you want your marriage to flourish.

Counselors and best-selling authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend, authors of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, show how you and your mate can experience marriage at its best. You ll learn how to deal with serious violations and betrayals and develop a haven of mutual love, care, appreciation, and growth. Boundaries in Marriage will show you: ? Why boundaries and the Ten Laws of Boundaries are vital for a thriving, productive marriage ? How values form the structure and architecture of marriage ? How to protect a marriage from intruders, whether parents, other people, affairs, or personal idols ? Why each partner needs to establish personal boundaries, and how to go about it ? How to work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries and how to work with one who doesn t

Whether you are just starting out as a couple, have been married for years, or are seriously contemplating marriage, Boundaries in Marriage will show you how to establish your own boundaries and respect those of your partner. Drawing on principles from the Bible, it can help you safeguard against relational fractures and mend existing cracks. It may even save your marriage. And it can help make even the best marriage better -- Publisher

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B000SELDB8
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Zondervan (May 18, 2009)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ May 18, 2009
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 755 KB
  • Simultaneous device usage ‏ : ‎ Up to 5 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 258 pages
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  • Reviewed in the United States on November 11, 2024
    I'm currently reading this book as part of a marriage class at my church, and it’s been a really eye-opening experience. This book dives deep into the importance of setting healthy boundaries within marriage, not in a way that divides partners but in a way that encourages mutual respect and strengthens the relationship.

    What I love about this book is that it’s practical. It doesn’t just give abstract advice; it offers real-life examples and actionable steps for handling common marriage challenges. It helped me see that boundaries aren’t about controlling or changing your partner but about understanding your own limits and needs and communicating those clearly and lovingly. For instance, it talks about how to handle situations where one person is more giving than the other, or when different values or expectations lead to frustration.

    The writing is compassionate and faith-based, so it feels like the authors really understand where couples are coming from and the unique challenges we face. Discussing it in our church group has brought up some really honest conversations, and it's clear that many of us have struggled with setting or respecting boundaries in one way or another.

    If you're looking to deepen your connection with your spouse and build a healthier, more balanced relationship, this book is well worth the read. It’s great for self-reflection, and even better when you can discuss it with others and learn from their perspectives too. Highly recommend for any couple, whether you’re newlyweds or have been together for years.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on December 17, 2024
    I bought this book and the workbook for it for a friend. I bought this book for myself years ago, and I was amazed at how well putting boundaries in place worked. I was able to set boundaries with my husband without creating more conflict. It helped our relationship a lot. I am very thankful for this series.
  • Reviewed in the United States on September 25, 2024
    These two have been blessed with the gift of counseling and the talent of writing for sure.

    This book is not about manipulating nor controlling your spouse, this book is to show you how set proper biblical boundaries around your marriage as individuals and as one.

    In marriage, yes we are one, IN CHRIST.
    Yes, we are very valuable and equal to Him

    BUT

    We never stop being individuals. People with two completely different minds with a different character and personality and with different roles and responsibilities in this life, it is a task to make this work, is time consuming and it takes a lot of effort.
    Being imperfect individuals seeking perfection, we fall short many times, this book helps you understand and gage to have better and more realistic expectations.

    Like me building a fence around my property to give me the privacy and benefits of a fence but it doesn’t remove my obligation to care for what is inside the fenced area I.e. the yard, the house, etc.

    One thing is for sure, you will learn a lot from this book.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on November 28, 2024
    Eye opening. Gave us a greater understanding into the healthy boundaries and essential balance in married life. And give us workable solutions and valuable suggestions.
  • Reviewed in the United States on November 20, 2002
    A Very Useful Book, But You May Still Need a Pro
    Reviewer: siddheartha from Warren, MI USA
    This is a very good book about boundaries.
    Yes, it is steeped in Christianity. If you are a Christian, that is a very big plus and will make this book even more helpful. However, if you are not, you can still get great value from this book.
    This book will teach, giving examples, about building appropriate boundaries in your marriage. If you are not married you can still prepare. Starting with good, strong boundaries will help you pick a better mate (for you), and make for a stronger marriage, too.
    If you are in a troubled marriage, it may be difficult to use this book. If the good will in the marriage has headed south, get a marriage counselor who is familiar with the book and willing to help you both build better boundaries.
    Those with good boundaries are the happiest people.
    Good luck! Enjoy.
    Oh, why not 5 stars? It is a well-written book. The examples are mostly useful. And as much as I like the reliance on Christian values, the book leans on them too much.
    It is a very subjective thing. So I can understand most people give 5 stars.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on January 15, 2025
    A book I will read again. Eye opening information about the way boundaries may not exist, and how they can be used or misused in the desire to grow in relationships.

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  • Maternity32Weeks
    5.0 out of 5 stars Boundaries to protect and build love in a marriage
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 7, 2023
    Thoroughly enjoyed this book. It has taken me x2 attempts to read but I'm grateful I persisted. Boundaries inside the marriage to deepen the relationship and keep the love thriving. This book and Danny Silk 'Keep Your Love On' are so important in a Christian marriage. May God help is all on this journey called marriage.
  • ChazeMan
    3.0 out of 5 stars Good read...
    Reviewed in Japan on March 7, 2020
    Some stories are related in some situations and some has no application...but its a good read.
  • ryan layton
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book
    Reviewed in Australia on October 17, 2016
    This book among others is keeping me focused on my personal growth, assisting me to grow out of fears and habits that I've tolerated for to long
  • Onlineshoppper
    5.0 out of 5 stars My husband was upset when I read this book
    Reviewed in Canada on January 10, 2014
    Anyone who sees someone reading this book thinks "oh, oh, somebody is going to get it".

    But this book is really about changing yourself to be a better spouse. It's really meant to help the reader understand what appropriate boundaries are for the reader, either in what they will and will not accept from their partner, and what is and is not acceptable behaviour on their own part. It is not about changing their spouse. At times change comes in the partner by changing oneself, but that is not the point of this book.

    I worked through this book with my daughter since both of us needed help in this area. The book is easy to read, and reading it together was a useful and pleasant way to spend time. We both changed and became more sure of ourselves and were able to establish better boundaries and become stronger personalities. Well worth our time; and I think a benefit to anyone who needs help in this area. 5 stars.
  • Martha
    5.0 out of 5 stars A must read!💛
    Reviewed in Canada on April 5, 2019
    Such a good book! So helpful and has opened my eyes to my own issues, as well. It’s a must read for all married couples and would be helpful for non-marriage relationships too.

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