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The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World Kindle Edition
Are you energized by spending time alone? In meetings, do you need to be asked for your opinions and ideas? Do you tend to notice details that other people miss? Is your ideal celebration a small get-together rather than a big party? Do you often feel like a tortoise surrounded by hares?
The good news is, you’re an introvert. The better news is that by celebrating the inner strengths and uniqueness of being introverted, The Introvert Advantage shows introverts how to work with instead of against their temperament to enjoy a well-lived life. Covering relationships, parenting—including parenting an introverted child—socializing, and the workplace, here are coping strategies, tactics for managing energy, and hundreds of valuable tips for not only surviving but truly thriving in an extrovert world.
“Filled with Aha! moments of recognition, Dr. Laney’s book will help millions of introverts understand why they are misunderstood, learn to appreciate who they are, and develop a just-right life in a world where extroverts once ruled.” —Paul D. Tieger, coauthor of Do What You Are
“In a world of shock jocks, screaming rock stars, and sensational journalism, this book dispels the myth that only the loud and flamboyant get ahead. Its clear, step-by-step advice will help introverts recognize and capitalize on their unique strengths.” —Dr. Bernardo J. Carducci, author of Shyness: A Bold New Approach

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“Tamara Marston’s narration makes the material relatable and informative. . . . [She] is able to identify with her audience, making her reading all the more effective and intimate. The result is a helpful, enlightening, and entertaining listen.”
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TAMARA MARSTON has been an actor, singer and director for over 30 years. A career performer / musician, Tami has toured nationally with several groups and appeared on The Arsenio Hall Show and A&E’s Goodtime Café. Dividing her time between acting and singing gigs, choral conducting, music and stage directing, jingle and voiceover work, private and public teaching—and family—Tami feels very fortunate to make her living working in the arts.
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Take the test for introversion on a day when you are feeling relaxed and not stressed out. Pick a cozy nook where you won't be interrupted. Consider each statement in terms of what is generally true or false for you, not how you wish you were or how you are some of the time. Don't analyze or think too deeply about each statement. Your first impression is usually the best. For an outside view of yourself, it can be enlightening to have a partner or friend answer for you. Compare your results with your friend's score. If the two tallies differ, talk about both of your views.
Answer the following questions T or F, then add up your True answers and check the scoring at the end of the list to see if you're an introvert, fall in the middle of the continuum, or are an extrovert.
-- When I need to rest, I prefer to spend time along or with one or two close people rather than with a group.
-- When I work on projects, I like to have larger uninterrupted time periods rather than smaller chunks.
-- I sometimes rehearse things before speaking, occasionally writing notes for myself.
-- In general, I like to listen more than I like to talk.
-- People sometimes think I'm quiet, mysterious, aloof, or calm.
-- I like to share special occasion with just one person or a few close friends, rather than have big celebrations.
-- I usually need to think before I respond or speak.
-- I tend to notice details many people don't see.
-- If two people have just had a fight, I feel the tension in the air.
-- If I say I will do something, I almost always do it.
-- I feel anxious if I have a deadline or pressure to finish a project.
-- I can "zone out" if too much is going on.
-- I like to watch an activity for a while before I decide to join it.
-- I form lasting relationships.
-- I don't like to interrupt others; I don't like to be interrupted.
-- When I take in lots of information, it takes me a while to sort it out.
-- I don't like overstimulating environments. I can't imagine why folks want to go to horror movies or go on roller coasters.
-- I sometimes have strong reactions to smells, tastes, foods, weather, noises, etc.
-- I am creative and/or imaginative.
-- I feel drained after social situations, even when I enjoy myself.
-- I prefer to be introduced rather than to introduce others.
-- I can become grouchy if I'm around people or activities too long.
-- I often feel uncomfortable in new surroundings.
-- I like people to come to my home, but I don't like them to stay too long.
-- I often dread returning phone calls.
-- I find my mind sometimes goes blank when I meet people or when I am asked to speak unexpectedly.
-- I talk slowly or have gaps in my words, especially if I am tired or if I am trying to speak and think at once.
-- I don't think of casual acquaintances as friends.
-- I feel as if I can't show other people my work or ideas until they are fully formulated.
-- Other people may surprise me by thinking I am smarter than I think I am.
Add up the number of Trues. Then read the following to see where you fall.
20-29 True: Pretty darn introverted. As a result, it is extremely important for you to understand how to keep your energy flowing and how our brain processes information. You relate to life through your ideas, impressions, hopes and values. You are not at the mercy of your external environment. This book can help you use your inner knowledge and create your own path.
10-19 True: Somewhere in the middle. Like being ambidextrous, you are both introverted and extroverted. You may feel torn between needing to be alone and wanting to be out and about. So it's very helpful to notice when and how you consistently feel more energized. You judge yourself by your own thoughts and feelings and by the standards of other people. This gives you a broad view, but at times you may get caught up in seeing both sides of a situation and not know where you stand. It is important to learn to assess your temperament so you can maintain your energy and balance.
1-9 True: You are more extroverted. You judge yourself in the light of the values and reality of others. You work within the bounds of what exists to bring about change. As you reach midlife and your body slows down, you may surprise yourself by wanting to take a break from socializing or needing time to yourself and then not knowing what to do. You can develop techniques to help yourself remember what is best for you to do when you need solitude. To do this you will have to balance your extroverting skills by learning more introverting skills.
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- ASIN : B006VUIDIY
- Publisher : Workman Publishing Company (February 1, 2002)
- Publication date : February 1, 2002
- Language : English
- File size : 2.0 MB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 337 pages
- Best Sellers Rank: #104,658 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D., is a researcher, educator, author, and psychotherapist. One of America's foremost authorities on introversion, she speaks and leads workshops on the topic in the United States and Canada. She and her extroverted husband have two grown daughters and four grandchildren. They live in Portland, Oregon.
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Customers find this book a good read for introverts, praising its respectful explanation of extroverts and many valuable tips. Moreover, the information quality receives positive feedback, with one customer noting its serious approach with references to actual research. Additionally, customers appreciate the writing quality, with one describing it as "exquisitely written." The book helps customers understand themselves and others, alleviates feelings of guilt, and customers consider it well worth the price. However, some customers find the book repetitive at times.
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Customers find the book highly readable, particularly praising its respectful approach to explaining extroverts and its focus on the unique features of introverts.
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Customers find the book provides great insights and many valuable tips, helping them understand themselves and others better.
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- Reviewed in the United States on May 7, 2006Do you often think of something you should have said after the opportunity has passed? Are others often surprised, finding you to be smarter than they first thought? Has anyone ever said you momentarily looked as if you were in a different world? Do you notice the small details others don't see or many sides of an issue? If so, you may be part of the 20% population known as an "introvert" personality type. (Although I suspect there may actually be more than 20% who have been conditioned by our predominantly extroverted orientated society to fit themselves within the extrovert range of the continuum.)
If you are an introvert (and there is a test within this book to find out), you will find your qualities celebrated and appreciated. You will feel vindicated and validated as Dr. Laney dispels myths and misconceptions, such as being shy, antisocial, being a self-absorbed loner, reclusive, retiring, and the myriad of other distortions society (including introverts themselves) may have about introvertism.
The main difference between an introvert and an extrovert is in how the two types gain their energy. Introverts focus inward to gain energy and become drained of energy from external sources. Extroverts must draw their energy from outward sources and become drained when they are alone. With their focus outside of themselves, extroverts like to experience a wide variety of stimuli, knowledge and experiences, whereas an introvert enjoys a more in-depth focus. Extroverts take in information but don't process it or expand it. When introverts take in information, they feel a need to reflect on it and expand it for depth, delving deeply for richness. Although extroverts may judge themselves in the light of the values and reality of others, an introvert is not at the mercy of such external environment. Introverts are independent thinkers and idle chit-chat can drain their energy, giving nothing in return. Because extroverts don't generate as much internal stimulation as introverts, they must get it from external sources. Introverts need fewer relationships than extroverts but they like more connection and intimacy within their relationships.
Some of the other hallmark traits of introverts are: conscientiousness, good listeners, having the ability to think outside the box, ability to persistently focus well for long periods of time, to notice details others miss, ability to take all sides of an issue into account and being creative in imaginative ways.
With at least 60% of the intellectually gifted identified as introverted, there is a definite correlation between introversion and intelligence. The example of Einstein's earliest education proves that a harsh environment can impair an introvert and undercut their potential. Introverts can access their talents, like the ability to concentrate and question, only in a fitting environment. And as Dr. Laney also points out, "Unless they can reduce outside stimulation, their inner thoughts, feelings, and impressions will never bubble up to the surface."
One chapter of "The Introvert Advantage" features a fascinating study of brain research and mapping results. Blood travels along different pathways of the brain between introverts and extroverts and the dominant neurotransmitters used are different as well.
Other chapters are written about relationships and the pros and cons of the paired combinations of introverts and extroverts, children and their identifiable differences and strategies for helping them succeed, as well as all sorts of tips, tactics and methods for helping yourself nurture this special personality to your fullest advantage.
True to form with this statement, "The trick is to help them understand themselves without developing avoidance as a way to cope," Dr. Laney helps without being patronizing, overly simple or indulgent, and she is very thorough in her suggestions for even those most introverted along the spectrum.
Although anyone can benefit from reading "The Introvert Advantage: How To Thrive (not "Survive" but "Thrive", mind you) In An Extrovert World" by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D., I consider it a must-read for any in counseling or teaching positions.
Bravo and thank you, Dr. Laney, for such a thorough and wonderful book!
- Reviewed in the United States on January 9, 2016Up until a few years ago, I never really thought much about the idea that people are either introverts or extroverts. Of course, I noticed that some people are more outgoing than others but I never really considered why exactly that is. Now that I am in my mid 30s and raising a family, I am examining my personality more and thinking about why I am the way I am. When my husband and I started talking about it, we discovered we are both introverts and suddenly, everything made sense! That would explain why I disliked group projects in school so much and why I would dread giving speeches in class. I started becoming more interested in learning about the differences between introverts and extroverts and came upon this book. Let me point out that I have never read other books on introverts so I don't have any others to compare it to. However, I decided the reviews looked good and I should try to branch out of my normal preference for fiction novels so I purchased this book.
One of the most interesting facts I immediately picked up in this book is that 75% of people are extroverts which means only 25% are introverts. It makes sense then why so many of our daily activities are more extrovert-centered and why introverts may think something is wrong with them. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with introverts. This book helps to explain that the brains of introverts and extroverts are different and thus, we process everything at different speeds and different ways. While I was reading this book, I could picture some of my friends and family who fit the personality traits of those mentioned in the book and it made it easier for me to understand the information presented.
I like how the book is organized, even though at times some of the information seemed a bit daunting. The book is organized in three parts and within those three parts are a total of ten chapters. The book starts about by defining the ways in which introverts differ from extroverts then goes on to discuss ways in which we can thrive in the "outie" (extrovert) world but at the same time still be ourselves. There are sections for handling relationships, parenting, friendships, and jobs which I found helpful since I can go back and read a section that I feel is particularly useful to me. I enjoyed the author's occasional humor inserted into the book which added a little bit of zest for me. In the beginning the author states that you can read the book cover to cover or skip around and read whichever sections sound appealing. I chose to read the entire book and, because I am used to reading fiction novels from cover to cover, I didn't anticipate just how much information I would be taking in all at once with more of a self-help type of book. It probably would have been more beneficial to me to read a chapter here and there so I could have more time to process all of the interesting information. I will most likely just go back and reread the sections I want to review.
Overall, I found this book to be a good resource so I can understand more about myself and how I can tweak certain things I do in order to still enjoy social activities and thrive out in the world without having to exhaust my energy constantly. This book would be a good read for any introvert wanting to learn more about their personality as well as extroverts who want to understand how introverts work. It certainly helped me to understand personalities a bit more and how I can interact with extroverts and still enjoy my own activities. I'm proud to be an introvert!
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- Alexandre NuernbergReviewed in Brazil on June 8, 2015
5.0 out of 5 stars Very good book, shows clearly de difference between introverts and extroverts
This book explains clearly the differences between the different kind of personalities, introverts and extroverts and its variations, right and left brain sides.
It explains why people act differently, and why some people have facility in express themselves, talk in a more confident way and others are more quiet and don't express themselves or have a "blank" situation during conversations where they lost the line of reasoning and don't know why.
One important thing too is that it shows that most of the introverts doesn't have knowledge of the differences, they don't know themselves and think that they have some kind of problem and considers the extroverts type as the normal ones.
It is a very good book to start understanding the differences between people personalities kinds. And for the introverts start to understand themselves.
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VictoriaReviewed in Germany on August 28, 2014
5.0 out of 5 stars Mein neues Lieblingsbuch
Mir wurde vor einiger Zeit dieses Buch von jemandem empfohlen, der es selbst gelesen hat und meinte, dass meine Einstellung über mich selbst sehr negativ ist. Ich war fasziniert davon, wie er so selbstsicher mit seinen introvertierten Eigenschaften umgeht und nachdem ich dieses Buch gelesen hab, verstehe ich ihn um einiges besser.
Das Buch hat mir Mut gemacht, meine Einstellungen gegenüber vielen Dingen geändert und mir gezeigt, dass es völlig normal ist, wie ich mich in manchen Situationen verhalte.
Wenn ich das Buch beschreiben müsste, würde ich sagen, dass es eine Bedienungsanleitung für mein Gehirn oder mein Verhalten ist. Ich kann nicht sagen, ob sich jeder introvertierte Mensch so gut beschrieben fühlt in diesem Buch wie ich, aber bei mir hat es den Nagel auf den Kopf getroffen und so viele unverständliche Dinge in meinem Verhalten erklärt.
Was mir daran hilft, ist dass ich besser verstehe, wie ich mich in bestimmen Situationen verhalte, damit mir Dinge leichter fallen und ich nicht das ständige schlimme Gefühl habe, mich anpassen zu müssen.
Mein Englisch ist zwar sehr gut und ich lese häufig englische Bücher, allerdings war ich mir unsicher, ob ich nicht Probleme bei diesem Buch haben würde, weil mir vielleicht das passende Vokabular fehlt. Ich merke aber schnell, dass sich das Buch super lesen lässt und angenehm zu lesen ist! Es ist weder zu kompliziert noch langweilig!
Vielleicht auch ein sehr gutes Buch für jeden, der nicht ganz versteht, wieso manche "stillere" Menschen so sind wie sie sind.
- Bernie2111Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 10, 2013
5.0 out of 5 stars Introvert and proud to be
I recently placed a request for 4 books on the subject about Introverts and I am really impressed because the Authors have researched this personality trait thoroughly and all books introduced me to new revelations. Marti Olsen Laney's book is enjoyable and provides further insight to Introversion in an A to Z fashion including physiological diagram and descriptions on multifaceted creative aspects of the brain that introverts share. I quite liked the chapter that teaches extroverts all about out how and why we are introvert and more important, how we can work together in working, social and close relationships. Laney's book also provides Extroverts/ Introverts workable solutions, when things don't work out from an interpersonal perspective so we can learn to live to some extent together while respecting each others space.
Five out of five marks. An ideal reading companion to the marriage guidance councillor and employee assistance provider as an aid to conflict resolution.
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LauraReviewed in France on January 19, 2015
5.0 out of 5 stars Très utile
Parfait pour ceux qui souhaitent comprendre les différences entre introvertis et extravertis, et comment vivre dans notre société tout en étant dans la première catégorie.
Les conseils pour "survivre en soirée" et autres événements sociaux sont extrêmement utiles.
- NolaReviewed in Canada on January 12, 2013
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome Book
This is an excellent book. I've recommended it to many of my clients – some of them have since purchased the book. It is great to give to introverted clients that have self-esteem and/or anxiety issues, as it helps them realize that there is a valid reason for the ways in which they interact in the world. For couples that are on opposite extremes, it helps them to understand the other person's core temperaments, so they can accept these differences more easily. Every client I've recommended it to has found something of value in the book.