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Pride and Joy: A Guide to Understanding Your Child's Emotions and Solving Family Problems 1st Edition, Kindle Edition

by Kenneth Barish Ph.D. (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
4.5 4.5 out of 5 stars 75 ratings
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Pride and Joy is a different kind of parenting book.

In Pride and Joy, child psychologist Kenneth Barish brings together the best of recent advances in clinical and neuroscience research with the author's three decades of experience working with children and families. He shows how a deeper appreciation of our children's emotions offers parents a new understanding of their children's development and better solutions to the problems in their lives.

Barish offers advice to parents on how we can restore more joyfulness and pride in our relationships with our children and how we can help children bounce back from disappointment and defeat. He shows how we can repair family relationships that have been damaged by frequent anger and resentment and how we can preserve our children's idealism and their concern for others--how we can raise children who feel good about themselves and also care about the needs and feelings of others.

Barish also offers advice on how to solve problems of daily family life--establishing rules and limits, doing homework and going to sleep, winning and losing at games, our children's reluctance to talk to us, their tantrums and lack of motivation, and their addiction to television and video games. He presents down-to-earth recommendations for solving these common family problems--problems that too often erode the joyfulness of our children and our pleasure in being parents.

Pride and Joy is both informative and highly practical, and a balanced answer to the extreme methods that too often dominate parenting debates. Few parenting books address the central issues of concern to today's parents while also offering parents as much day-to-day advice.
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Award-Winning Finalist in the Parenting & Family category of The 2013 USA Best Book Awards, sponsored by USA Book News.

2013 International Book Awards Winner, Parenting & Family

Eric Hoffer Book Award Winner, Home Category

Mom's Choice Award, Gold Winner

National Parenting Publications Award, Silver Winner

ForeWord Reviews Book of the Year Award Finalist, Family and Relationships

2012 Book of the Year Award Bronze Prize, Family and Relationships

"This is a wonderful book! This practical and very wise book will support parents and guardians thinking about how to best manage the struggles that all children-and all families-have! I wish that I had been able to read this book when I became a father."-- Jonathan Cohen, Ph.D., President, Center for Social and Emotional Education and Adjunct Professor in Psychology and Education, Teachers College, Columbia University

"Kenneth Barish, a seasoned child therapist, has written a masterful and wise book. He distills his knowledge of the field and his many years of working with children and parents into practical advice that will be enormously helpful to parents navigating the inevitably rough waters of childhood. Parents will learn how to enlist their children in solving problems and how to help their children get unstuck. Compassionate, respectful, and inspiring, this book stands out from the crowded field of parenting books. It deserves a prominent place on every parent's bookshelf."-- Ellen F. Wachtel, Ph.D., author of Treating Troubled Children and Their Families

"Stepping into the national debate over whether parents are too soft, or too worried, or too distracted to raise strong kids, Dr. Barish shares his insights into the emotional lives of children and what kids need from parents to develop resilience, optimism, the capacity for hard work, and the other good things we want for them. Dr. Barish understands that parenting can be child-centered without indulging or catering to children. By acknowledging kids' feelings, we can more effectively help them develop self-discipline. He offers an excellent guide to building the kind of warm, positive relationship with kids that is the key to setting, and enforcing, the limits that they need."-- Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D., President, Child Mind Institute

"Pride and Joy is a book overflowing with the unmistakable signs of wisdom that only decades of experience can produce. Ken Barish has written the book that every clinician dreams about being able to write and every parent (and grandparent!) dreams about being there to read. To be sure, solid advice and solutions to parenting problems are here, but even more important is the sense of perspective and equanimity with which Barish reassuringly fills each page. This is a must for every parent's bookshelf. Well done!"
-- Marshall P. Duke, Ph.D., Charles Howard Candler Professor of Psychology, Emory University and Editor of Journal of Family Life

"Understanding children requires understanding and responding wisely to the emotions that enliven--and sometimes undermine--children's everyday experience. Dr. Barish expertly weaves together the insights of developmental science, a clinician's experience, and the practical knowledge of a father to provide guidance to the challenges of parenthood. This book is wise and smart." -- Ross A. Thompson, Ph.D., Distinguished Professor, Department of Psychology, University of California-Davis

"Written in an accessible manner, Dr. Barish offers many nuggets of advice concerning the rearing of children in this confusing, complex society. He emphasizes the need to support children's emotional health through sharing their joys, offering solace when they are sad or disappointed, and by addressing any conflicts that may occur between parent and child. Research is cited throughout the book, but in language that is lucid and free of jargon. Dr. Barish cites many examples that deal with children's problems drawn from his clinical practice, adding to the richness of this book."-- Dr. Dorothy G. Singer, Department of Psychology, Yale University

"If you only buy one parenting book in the next ten years, do yourself (and your children) a favor and make it Pride and Joy: A Guide to Understanding Your Child's Emotions and Solving Family Problems by Dr. Kenneth Barish... Pride and Joy will certainly help parents repair and enrich relationships with their children while helping them establish the rules and limits children really do crave. Best Parenting Book of 2012." -- Gina Stepp, examiner.com

"Parents who wish to focus more on the positive, who want ideas of how to deal with
behavioral difficulties, and who would like to raise children who are optimistic and
confident would greatly benefit from this easy-to-read, easy-to-put-into-practice book." -- Michelle Stroffolino Schmidt, PsycCRITIQUES

"... a valuable addition to a genre of literature intended to support and educate parents. It provides not only a lexicon for emotions but also a language and approach enabling parents to reach out to their children in a helpful, joyful way. The language of the author is readily available to parents because of its clarity and positive intent. These are words that can be quickly assimilated by the parent reading in moments of calm or anxiety searching for alternative solutions. Congratulations to the author on this innovative, integrative, and necessary slender volume."--Journal of Infant, Child, and Adolescent
Psychotherapy

"We all have fears as we raise our children, and we try so hard to get it right, though we're never quite certain if we are where we should be. Ken Barish, who has been there as a parent and has seen almost everything kids can get into during his years of practice, provides the information you seek and helps you get your bearings. If you are a parent, you will reach for this book like it's the hand of a dear and knowing friend reaching out to offer help. Pride and Joy is a superb book-brilliant, wise, timely, and fun to read. It is heartfelt and full of treasures every parent will store up and use." -- Edward (Ned) Hallowell, M.D., Founder of The Hallowell Center for Cognitive and Emotional Health, and author of The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness

"As a child therapist and a parent, I am much the richer for having read Barish's work." --Henry Kronengold, PhD, Psychoanalytic Psychology

About the Author

Kenneth Barish is Clinical Associate Professor of Psychology at Weill Medical College, Cornell University. He is also on the faculty of the Westchester Center for the Study of Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy and the William Alanson White Institute Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy Training Program.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B008MWL5L6
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Oxford University Press; 1st edition (May 28, 2012)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ May 28, 2012
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 709 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 268 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.5 4.5 out of 5 stars 75 ratings

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Kenneth Barish, Ph.D., is Clinical Associate Professor of Psychology at Weill Medical College, Cornell University. He is also on the faculty of the Westchester Center for the Study of Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy and the William Alanson White Institute Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy Training Program.

Dr. Barish was raised in Mt. Vernon, NY and now lives in Mamaroneck, NY, where he and his wife raised their two children. He graduated from Yale University in 1972 and earned his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology form the New School for Social Research in 1980. In addition to his teaching, writing, and clinical practice, Dr. Barish plays jazz trumpet, and his jazz group performs often for professional events.

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Janet
5.0 out of 5 stars Clear concise parenting plan
Reviewed in the United States on December 2, 2012
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People say that the problem with children is that they don't come with an instruction manual. It is my belief that Dr. Barish's most recent book could serve as one and make the world a better place if every newborn baby came with a copy. As a parent of three teenagers and a Psychoanalyst, I am thrilled to recommend this book to friends and patients. It takes the emphasis off "punishment" and behavior and focuses on addressing the emotional needs of a child that lead to sub-optimal behaviors in a clear direct way that any parent can try. While considering the current criticisms of the day of too lenient parenting, Dr. Barish explains that sometimes negotiating and modeling flexibility for our children is not a sin. A great and useful book!
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5.0 out of 5 stars The best single comprehensive book on parenting
Reviewed in the United States on January 29, 2017
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If I could have only one book on parenting this would be it. The author reviews the most prominent theories on parenting over the past several decades in light of current scientific research and practical experience. This includes recent advances in neurobiology, Carol Dweck's groundbreaking work that led to Mindset and the work of the Positive Coaching Alliance. Barish offers common sense, practical advice based on sound research, a positive approach and 30+ years working with children and families.
If you are willing to reevaluate fixed ideas about parenting, especially those that have produced sub-optimal results, this is the book for you.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Highly Recommend
Reviewed in the United States on April 2, 2014
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I have read dozens of parenting, child development, and discipline books in my quest to be a good parent. I am addicted to them and have my own library of parenting books. Some of them are good, but most are just okay. Nothing has really clicked with me and nothing has seemed more relevant and practical than Pride and Joy by Kenneth Barish. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking for practical, thoughtful solutions to everyday problems as well as a resource for understanding children's emotions (actually it will help you understand adult emotions too!). Highly, highly recommend.
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3.0 out of 5 stars OKAY
Reviewed in the United States on May 24, 2013
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Nice book, but honestly I believe there are better and deeper books out there. This was suggested to me and so I ordered it. No regrets but think I could do better.
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David
5.0 out of 5 stars Physician Review
Reviewed in the United States on May 22, 2012
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This is a wonderful book in which Dr. Barish, a child psychologist and parent, shares the wisdom he has acquired in over thirty years of counseling parents and their children.
The advice is supported wtih reports of scientific studies that give the readers confidence in their decisions, and it encourages the use of relationship skills already acquired in other aspects of their lives.
The information is well organized and offers specific suggestions for many common problems.
It is a great gift for new parents as well as those struggling with parenting problems.
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Maryland Parent
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book
Reviewed in the United States on May 9, 2012
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As Barish shows us in an easy to read style, common sense and research tell us the same thing: play with your children, show interest in their interests. It something we call all do and it will, as he explains, give you more pride and joy in your relationships with your children. And, there's an additional benefit. It will help you develop shared interests that will last into their adulthood, and yours. It's hard to think of anything more joyful than that. Get this book. You won't be disappointed.
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Sheryl A. Cooper
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I ordered this book for my son who is raising three children. I was asked by him if I could find some information regarding raising children so I came to Amazon.com knowing what author I was looking for. Kevin Lehman's books are Christian based and practical advise in a Christian perspective. I attended one of his conferences years ago when I was raising my own children and used many of his techniques. I am still reading this book but have enjoyed it very much so far.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Must read parenting book
Reviewed in the United States on February 16, 2013
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This is an excellent book on parenting, helpful for all parents, but especially from pre school through middle school. It shows parents how to tune in to their children in ways that are - unfortunately - not often written about these days. I have recommended it to the mothers in my parenting workshop - and bought copies for the parents of my grandchildren! The author is an excellent psychologist, which I know from reading the book, but also from the recommendations of colleagues.
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Luca
5.0 out of 5 stars Bello e utile
Reviewed in Italy on October 18, 2013
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Pieno di spunti pratici per risolvere problemi comuni, con un punto di vista che mira alla crescita felice e al pieno sviluppo delle potenzialità di ogni bambino.
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Rob Roy
5.0 out of 5 stars Sheer Joy! A must read for all parents, teachers and childcare professionals
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 14, 2013
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This book is a stunning read. It will touch your heart, challenge your previous values and actions and have you nodding in agreement at its logical no-nonsense approach to understanding children and the predicaments of growing up.

The anecdotal stories of real children with real worries, large and small, are used to illustrate the main points and are worth the cost of the book alone. They are memorable and moving accounts of the trials and tribulations of childhood, helping to guide us along a new path, better suited to the world of today and today's children.

Whether you are a parent or someone who works with children, Pride and Joy will offer you a straight forward approach to improving relationships with children and their family members, whether the problems seem trivial or insurmountable.

As a headteacher of many years, I have always been somewhat skeptical of the role of child psychologists and the seemingly endless advice and help books coming out of the USA. However, this book is the grand exception that challenges my prejudices.

I found Ken Barish's book absolutely illuminating, especially the sections on helping to building resilience in our children in the particularly demanding and stressful environment of our current education system. Building resilience is a crucial strategy to teach today's children. I only wish I had had this knowledge when I started out on my teaching career.

It is a simply and sensitively expressed, jargon free, enjoyable read that can help us to treasure our children's journey and avoid the unnecessary cycles of criticism and resentment that we so easily fall into.

We all enjoy and deserve a little "Pride and Joy"!
Treat yourself NOW!
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roxanne
5.0 out of 5 stars m glad I got it
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 14, 2015
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i,m glad I got it, I think I,m much better behaving as a mother and my daughter is much happier these days
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mrs l l bashir
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 4, 2014
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really lovely book. so helpful in a gentle, loving and understated manner.
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