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Connections Over Compliance: Rewiring Our Perceptions of Discipline Kindle Edition

by Lori L Desautels (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 398 ratings
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The developing brains of our children need to "feel" safe.

Children who carry chronic behavioral challenges are often met with
reactive and punitive practices that can potentially reactivate the developing stress response systems.

This book deeply addresses the need for co-regulatory and relational touch point practices, shifting student-focused behavior management protocols to adult regulated brain and body states which are brain aligned, preventive, and relational discipline protocols. This new lens for discipline benefits all students by reaching for sustainable behavioral changes through brain state awareness rather than compliance and obedience.
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"Dr. Lori Desautels gives us insight into the possibilities of a new paradigm for operationalizing the effects of adverse childhood experiences."
--J. T. Coopman, Ed. D., Executive Director IAPSS

"By giving language to co-regulated ways of being, Desautels continues to catalyze a new reality in school communities. Her translational fusion of embodied sciences and the art of education practices provides a prescient and essential guide for honoring our shared human journey amid our complex times."
-- Sheila Dennis, PhD, MSW, Senior Lecturer, Indiana University School of Social Work

"It is an honor to partner with Dr. Lori Desautels in providing professional development and support for our students. She continues to amaze me with the latest research and practical implementation of strategies that best serve our children."
-- Dr. Flora Reichanadter, Superintendent, Metropolitan School District of Pike Township, Indianapolis

"This book is truly an essential tool for any teacher or direct care-giver who wants to understand behavior and know how to help children connect, heal, and move into a positive life trajectory."
--Scott E. LePor, D.O., Medical Director of Texas Juvenile Justice Department

About the Author

Lori L. Desautels, PhD, is an assistant professor at Butler University in the College of Education. Her passion is teaching children and educators about the beautiful complexity of their genius brains!

Jennifer Aquino is an American actor and award-winning narrator based in Los Angeles. She works in film, television, theater, and voice-over. She's one of the doctors who killed McDreamy on the ABC medical drama Grey's Anatomy. Her theater background includes performances at East West Players, The Actors' Gang, LaJolla Playhouse, Theatre West, El Portal Theatre, and Center Stage Theatre. Jennifer loves giving voice to young adults, and reading journeys of empowered women in romantic comedies, LitRPG books, fantasy/sci-fi novels, mysteries, and thrillers. Her background in theater and voice contributes to her narration in giving each character a unique life.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B08HSL79CS
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing (September 18, 2020)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ September 18, 2020
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 7103 KB
  • Simultaneous device usage ‏ : ‎ Unlimited
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 367 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 398 ratings

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Dr. Lori Desautels is an Assistant Professor at Butler University in the College of Education. Her passion is teaching children and educators about the beautiful complexity of their genius brains!

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THIS. Changing our culture, our mindsets, and our limitations; THIS is a game-changer!
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THIS. Changing our culture, our mindsets, and our limitations; THIS is a game-changer!
This GIFT from Dr. Lori Desautels, Connections Over Compliance, empowers teachers, staff, administrators, and families to shift our paradigms regarding the power, capacity, and potential of relational connections. Each page of this book better equips us to improve every aspect of our classrooms, schools, districts, and home cultures and bring a calm, self-regulated body and brain state to all areas of our lives.The biggest take away? “It starts with ME!“ This is fully a HOW TO book with incredible and tested content to ensure growth, understanding, and success in our efforts to move forward TOGETHER! This book has changed the way I teach, serve my teachers and staff, and how I show up and follow-through as a mother, wife, leader, sister, daughter, and friend! THIS work is transforming our school culture and changing the lives of students, staff, and families in real time!
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Erin Dencker
5.0 out of 5 stars You need this book!
Reviewed in the United States on August 10, 2023
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If you are a teacher or even a parent you need this book! Great at explaining how the brain works and the why behind behavior. She has resources you can use as well! I am going to use one of her behavior resources for my son in his school as well so he and they can keep track of his behavior more accurately.
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T Low
5.0 out of 5 stars This is the research of our time!
Reviewed in the United States on May 2, 2021
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As an effective and successful high school educator, mentor and student advocate, I found the research and insight in Connections Over Complaince extremely valuable toward both self coaching and service of todays youth.

All custodians of young and older learners development must read this book. It will be easy to spot those who have not: frustrated about how to reach learners, complaining about our current state of the world and sinking lower into popular rhetoric around education - or - reading this book gaining the tools to navigate the murky waters of humanity walking with grace and quiet confidence at having improved your own perspective as well as extended the hand of friendship and being present for those in need. Others would observe the readers of this book taking the journey WITH those in our care toward a new level of personal awareness and validation. I felt as through the book validated almost 2 decades of relationship building with students. This is the book of our time! One quote of many to share so imagine if ALL stakeholders lived by these words: “When you follow the student’s behavior, you follow your own agenda. When you follow their eyes, they lead you to their pain and healing.”

Lori Desautels.

Thank you Dr. Desautels!
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Robert Beltz
5.0 out of 5 stars The most relevant & transformational work on brain-aligned educational practice to date
Reviewed in the United States on November 19, 2020
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Dr. Lori Desautels is on point with her latest book, Connections Over Compliance: Rewiring Our Perceptions of Discipline. I received my copy in the mail and was able to put it into practice with my students the very next day.
My students are language learners. Entering a new country and a new culture often creates a crisis of belonging. Coupled with the deleterious effects of a pandemic, this may easily overwhelm a family. With a delicate balance of research-backed theory and practical applications, Dr. Desautels provides the tools - and indeed the lens - through which we can begin to shift our approach to disciplinary practices. As we harness the power of relationships through co-regulation and brain-aligned strategies, as outlined in this work, we can (finally) begin our journey of sustainable, authentic connections with our youngest stakeholders.
Dr. Desautels provides insight through personal experiences, self-care practice, and brain-aligned strategies. As she so poignantly states, “every relationship with a student is sacred...” This work is a guide for every professional who finds truth in those words.
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Daniel
5.0 out of 5 stars Essential for Teachers, Parents and Anyone
Reviewed in the United States on October 2, 2020
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The knowledge I have gained through Dr. Desautels’ reachable and applicable understanding of educational neuroscience has sincerely changed my life for the better in so many ways. This book contains explanations of WHY we (our children, spouses and any person) do or react in a certain way and how to help. If we can access a calm then we can share that and it becomes regulation for those around us. As a parent, I am incredibly thankful for this. As a teacher I can’t imagine how differently I would have taught and as a person I am glad to know my brain can grow and change.
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Katie Reddin
5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing
Reviewed in the United States on February 15, 2023
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Every teacher should have this book!
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cassiekh
5.0 out of 5 stars Every educator needs to read
Reviewed in the United States on May 19, 2021
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I heard Dr. Desautels speak at a conference and immediately bought this book. I am not yet done, but have already learned so much, including a plethora of actual tips and tricks for putting this science into practice! I want to share this book with everyone I know who works with youth!
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Elizabeth
5.0 out of 5 stars A MUST Read!
Reviewed in the United States on July 26, 2021
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This book is an excellent read for all adults and especially for those working in education! For too long schools have been punishing and "consequencing" student behavior, without positive long term outcome. Connections Over Compliance gives excellent ideas for changing that philosophy and should bve a must read!
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Heather
3.0 out of 5 stars Sticky cover
Reviewed in the United States on March 19, 2024
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Haven’t read the book yet, but the sticky cover is disappointing. Not great for adding to my book shelf of resources when I am finished reading it!
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3.0 out of 5 stars Sticky cover
Reviewed in the United States on March 19, 2024
Haven’t read the book yet, but the sticky cover is disappointing. Not great for adding to my book shelf of resources when I am finished reading it!
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Alyce Maddox
5.0 out of 5 stars Pages falling out
Reviewed in Canada on April 12, 2021
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Content of book is excellent
Quality of book binding is terrible...random pages falling out throughout first three chapters
I have never had this happen before
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