I have gained so much from my reading of this book. I'm posting on off of my college son's account, but I'm Brian Habel.
Jeff & Cathy are a neat couple with a LOT of wisdom that these pages are drenched with! I really cannot speak highly enough about the wisdom and wonderful affirming nature of this book to set me into the right mode and manner involving finding my way in this CRAZY CRAZY dating world as a divorced single member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints!!! Jeff & Cathy speak with great candor and context and wisdom.
I was personally guided by the Spirit to a page in the book and it has become something that has guided me I believe very profoundly to avoid some heartaches and to rely more on my own personal revelation and trust myself better.
Jeff & Kathy synergize and don't just speak well and cover the basis in the book, but also on their many speaking engagements and LILY casts and podcasts.
Jeff speaks with a LOT of wisdom and context, and specifically directed wisdom to help solve problems/challenges, but does it form a flare of some considerable authority... like it will stand a litmus test of time in most instances. You like the answers and want more. And then he is humble.
And then with Kathy, I also have seen and felt how Cathy is not a whit behind him. I have seen a lot of intelligence in how she covered how personality theories can help- like highly intelligent material, some of which I was using already. She is an understatement of knowledge & wisdom & is unassumingly guiding many discussions as an authority on the subjects not just in the book but on screen. She does not have to have the limelight, she is the light, however. I see them as equals in power and grace and kindness.
How we form our IDENTITY is so important in establishing good behavioral patterns in our life. I am a Divorced Single! Radical ACCEPTANCE here! Imagine how you'll IDENTIFY with it- and it will address your deepest longings, somewhat offended experiences, needs, and wishes in a way that is uplifting and edifying, AND transforming. So, take it off in bite sizes- pick the chapter that titillates you the most, but start now!!! If you don't maybe planets will take much longer to align in your favor too!
ADDITION 8/24/22:
The entire book CONTINUES to speak to me as a divorced person, not just 'kitchen soup for the soul' stuff, but real-life "what to do now's".
I've literally turned to this book for guidance like the scriptures almost as it were. I open it anywhere and it somehow addresses what I'm needing. Granted, I have used the table of contents to go to the relevant stuff for my current situation, but more often, I've just opened it and gotten needed strength for each specific time of need.
One Example: I went to the table of contents and out of curiosity "to begin with" I knew I'd be going on a date tomorrow, so I selected in Part Two, under #11 "A First Date is Arranged, Now What?....127" and as I read I not only got some good info about "what to talk about, to do", I got the stuff on top of that, the "what NOT to talk about". You see, I wasn't even looking for THAT, but I got it. And it so happens that THAT is the reason why I've been being sucked back into some of my traumas that WERE overcome and contextualized and properly processed BEFORE. I've tried denying it, but you know the problems associated if you are single, you seem to have to tell all the bad stuff again and it gets you bogged down somehow. Because every time we need to seem to tell new people over-and-over again our traumas, and thus be "retraumatized again". Perhaps we need to be right and so stop that. So, I can see why people quit dating and say it SUCKS. Because it does "for this reason"! I can handle rejection, I just can't handle THAT!!! Well, the book gives the principle with the guideline and it is a rule now... I can't be caught now, getting sucked back down in. Can you imagine how liberating this one rule is going to be for me!? You'll have to get the book to find it out, but you're imagining it. THAT rule/wisdom/principle ALONE IS WORTH THE COST OF THIS BOOK. I'm still trying to keep it, but at least I know where I need to change.
Another example: Is too sacred and personal to share. But it is like I'm evolving and transcending. MANY things are being cleared up for me! The book started this foundation, then in hearing more from them, using reference material they've chosen, etc. As I've come along in finding my own joy and sitting still to listen, when nothing seems to replace the loss, I've realized I need the Savior. This book has helped this process.
A lot of things will come to us when we are MOVING, however. Like Victor Frankl in man search for meaning said, if you aim at it directly often it will slip away, whereas if you can do the things that help it come about, your chances are better that it will ensue. This book has given me that opportunity to keep on keeping on with purpose and grit. Do I really have to stop dating in order to be whole? Nope. I really feel like this book has helped me shore up my identity as a single as a good thing. Being single for a season is OK and this book will save me YEARS of lost opportunities because I know how to stop the bleeding and secondly how to re-establish blood flow with real-life "how to do's" that I have ONLY gotten from this book. I really feel like I am running toward something and not just from! ;)
OR
Download the free Kindle app and start reading Kindle books instantly on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
Read instantly on your browser with Kindle for Web.
Using your mobile phone camera - scan the code below and download the Kindle app.
Loading your book clubs
There was a problem loading your book clubs. Please try again.
Not in a club? Learn more
Join or create book clubs
Choose books together
Track your books
Bring your club to Amazon Book Clubs, start a new book club and invite your friends to join, or find a club that’s right for you for free.
Follow the authors
Something went wrong. Please try your request again later.
Customers who bought this item also bought
Page 1 of 1 Start overPage 1 of 1
Reviews with images
For older singles not married, divorced, widowed, or navigating the dating waters.
This is a very impressive book for the audience it addresses--singles in mid-life. Jeff and Cathy have covered every dimension of navigating singleness in the middle years. A must read for anyone who has been through a divorce or experienced heartache in decision-making in dating. You will find all you need to regain your footing and move forward in locating your eternal companion. This book offers much needed reassurance that after a profound loss (divorce) and perceived failure (in finding a sweetheart), there is still hope for a bright future. With the number of older singles in the Church and the quality of this material, it will be a best-seller!Doug Brinley, BYU Professor, Emeritus
Top reviews from the United States
There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.
Reviewed in the United States on April 17, 2022
Reviewed in the United States on November 15, 2021
Reviewed in the United States on November 8, 2022
Reviewed in the United States on December 30, 2021
